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Why did he think it was acceptable to say such a vulgar thing to me

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starboyz · 22/10/2016 14:16

A guy I am dating, he is 36.
I have not had hot water for over a week, my boiler broke ect
I have said to him I not meeting him until my boiler is fixed which will be next thrusday.
He then made a "joke" saying "Your cats must love you because you must smell of fish"
Who the hell says something like that, I cringed and said I dont smell of fish and that isnt funny to which he said it was a "joke"

I'm absolutely disgusted, I am not overreacting am I?

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YvaineStormhold · 22/10/2016 17:08

I love it when men say shit like that to me. I like to really skewer them, while remaining completely deadpan.

'What do you mean? Why would I smell of fish?'
'Well, you know...'
'No, sorry, you'll have to explain."
"Well, you can't have a shower, so..."
"So, what? I'm going to run sardines on myself"
"No...you know. You'll...smell. Down there."
"Down where? Brighton? I don't get what you're saying."

And so on, and so forth, while the bugger squirms.

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YvaineStormhold · 22/10/2016 17:08

Rub, not run.

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KungFuPandaWorksOut · 22/10/2016 18:00

I laughed, for the simple reason he actually thought that was appropriate. tartlett bit extreme, he made a fish joke, and you're now making up your own answers on his behalf on different subjects that are irrelevant!

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springydaffs · 22/10/2016 19:29

Great post Yvaine Grin

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FurryLittleTwerp · 22/10/2016 19:32

"keeps inviting himself on my holidays" WTF? Confused

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Blerg · 22/10/2016 19:37

Urgh. I agree with all the above. Immature and what a passion killer. A giant sniggering man boy.

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bluesky9 · 22/10/2016 20:09

Agree fully with pp. At best he's thinking "why did I say that?" . Even then, its not good. You deserve far better op

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PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 22/10/2016 20:11

I have a new girl crush on Yvaine. Xmas Blush

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RaingodswithZippos · 22/10/2016 20:12

Yuk. I find that sort of humour from my DH amusing as I give as good as I get (and I know that he doesn't mean anything by it, we just like to think up imaginative insults for each other) but we have been together 17 years.

Just dating for a short while is way too soon to say something like that IMO.

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YvaineStormhold · 22/10/2016 20:35

You'd have enjoyed the conversation I had with a new colleague who asked if my husband had run off with a younger model, then Grin

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CurtainsforRonnie · 22/10/2016 20:39

Oh is he from the inbetweeners? Does he say clunge?
Call him a bus wanker!

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AnyFucker · 22/10/2016 21:57

Me too, PES Smile

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confusedandemployed · 22/10/2016 21:59

Loving your work Yvaine! Grin

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YvaineStormhold · 22/10/2016 22:02

Thanks guys. I've had plenty of practice, unfortunately.

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user1475440127 · 22/10/2016 22:06

That would be a goodbye from me.

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