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am I the only one who just doesn't believe that all men are into porn?

345 replies

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 09/02/2007 11:12

of course some are, and of course in a lot of relationships it is a problem, and indeed in some it isn't, but I really just don't believe that most men buy/download/possess porn of some kind as has been suggested on here many times.

so am I the only one who believes this? I know my dh certainly doesn't have any.

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 09/02/2007 11:13

Plenty aren't.

DH doesn't care for it.

And I've had quite few boyfriends who weren't interested in it at all.

foxinsocks · 09/02/2007 11:14

meeeeeeeeee

and I'm relieved to see there are others because I always feel (on here) that I'm the only one with that viewpoint

JustIvor · 09/02/2007 11:14

I agree with your post so you're not alone.

Firepile · 09/02/2007 11:17

And me. I know my DP doesn't have porn. But I do think that porn is pretty mainstreamed, and men are almost conditioned to respond to it. He doesn't have it because he doesn't want to buy into the exploitation of women, but this kind of viewpoint seems to be getting rarer and rarer.

Carmenere · 09/02/2007 11:18

No all men aren't into it but lots of men are.

3rdtriMOSSter · 09/02/2007 11:18

Dh doesn't like porn. In his words, "why would I want to see another man get his lad out even if there is a woman there?"

Caligula · 09/02/2007 11:20

No you're not the only one.

I've only had one boyf who was into it and he didn't last long.

Snaf · 09/02/2007 11:25

I've only had one partner who was into porn and it was massively detrimental to our relationship.

There are plenty of men out there who don't need it and don't want it - thank god. They're the ones I'd rather have in my life.

mylittlestar · 09/02/2007 11:26

I agree with the op and my dh and quite a few of the men I know just aren't bothered.

I know quite a few men who are obsessed by it too though!

Pruni · 09/02/2007 11:26

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DarrellRivers · 09/02/2007 11:31

My Dh really not into it either

norkmaiden · 09/02/2007 11:32

Another dh here with NO interest whatsoever (thankfully!), honestly.

mumto3girls · 09/02/2007 11:32

My DP has no porn whatsoever...he has never in all the years i hav eknown him shown any interest and yet has a very high sex drive...
His quote was 'why sit and watch what i could be doing myself...?'

Bekks · 09/02/2007 11:35

Another one here. I've had a couple of ex's who might have used it occasionally when single but not in a relationship. I had one ex who was heavily into it and like Snaf it was detrimental to our relationship - it seemed the porn was more important than I was. I'm also really concerned about what it's going to be like for dd when she's older, and porn is much more easily available for kids via internet and mobile phones and how boys are going to see girls and how girls see themselves as a result.

Bekks · 09/02/2007 11:38

And I had a friend at work who wasn't into it, but his girlfriend's dad was, which she'd found really disturbing, but his thoughts on it were, why do people have more than one porn mag, as they're all the same?!

cheekychick · 09/02/2007 11:40

My man not into them never had an issue with it. I feel for those who have. Its something that I'm strongly against and I am pleased my dh is too.

Sobernow · 09/02/2007 11:41

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Freckle · 09/02/2007 11:43

Not sure DH even knows what it is! Seriously though, he is definitely not into it unless he's suddenly found some time in the day when he's not working, eating or sleeping.

Gobbledigook · 09/02/2007 11:44

I've never known any men - friends or otherwise - that don't at least like looking at pics of women with their baps out.

mumto3girls · 09/02/2007 11:48

You have never met my DP then Gobblidigook

Tommy · 09/02/2007 11:49

mine doesn't like it either

NotQuiteCockney · 09/02/2007 11:50

Some men aren't into visual porn (and like text instead), and some men aren't into any porn at all. I suspect most men are into visual porn, but by no means all.

Overrun · 09/02/2007 11:55

Dh is not keen at all, know he is not faking it because I trust him to be truthful. I was also a friend of his for a long time before we got together so we know plenty about each other

SpookyMadMummy · 09/02/2007 12:25

My dh is not into porn... He had the odd cheeky pic on his mobile which he had to basically keep up with colleagues who had their phones FULL of them... then dd1 started playing with his phone and he removed them!
He reads the Sport now and then, but thats about it....

Iklboo · 09/02/2007 12:29

DH says he looked at so much when he was younger he can't be bothered with it now. He certainly hasn't got any - another "why watch when I can be doing it with you?"