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My OH of 5 years has lots of female friends. Some of them seem to have romantic feelings towards him but I don't think he realises. As I know he chooses to be with me, I feel a bit cautious about those ones who might like to try to turn his head but mostly confident in these friendships. After all, if he wants to be with anyone else, he'll do that, won't he?
However, recently I saw on his phone (I sometimes look at it - maybe I'm not as confident as I say...) that he's arranged a meet up with an exgf of his that I explicitly said I wasn't comfortable him becoming friends again with. She sends him texts saying she's thinking of their time together etc, etc - she wants him not his friendship. I don't see him flirting back (I'm very annoyed that he hasn't mentioned he's in a relationship) but I'm really upset that he's arranged to meet her. He's made this secret date for when I'm out one day this week too. I expect the silly bugger is blind to her come ons (as he is with the others) but as I said I really didn't want him to be in contact with this one I am really fed up that he's doing this.
Now, I really don't want to admit to looking at his phone, so how do I deal with this? Thanks for your understanding replies.