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I'm going to have to leave

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Fairytoad · 02/10/2016 23:32

So tonight after everything has been going so well with my dp of 5 years he has pulled me across the room by my hair, had my 21 month old screaming his head off. I feel so upset. I don't have a clue where to start with it all. Can't do anything at this time of night. Want to go to my mums but dont want to worry her. Me and little one are safe. I am a mixture of angry but mainly just heartbroken.

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GizmoFrisby · 03/10/2016 19:07

If you carry on in this relationship, you will end up losing your child. How can you let your child be around such a twat?
Your poor baby.

Helpisathand13 · 03/10/2016 19:54

I hope your day has been the best it could be and you have had time and space to reflect and make some decisions Fairytoad.

Princesspinkgirl · 03/10/2016 21:24

You must report it and leave if you don't Some one else might like a neighbour? That will look worse doing it your self shows your protecting your child no man is worth losing your child over

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Fairytoad · 03/10/2016 21:38

My child didnt see him drag me or touch me. He only saw him when he was going down the stairs but could obviously see him. I am not making excuses for him. He is at his families and we are still here. He has said he will stay away for as long as I need which at the minute I want to be forever. Ds has been fine today. I honestly get where you are all coming from as I would be saying the same to someone else but honestly you couldn't make me feel shitter than I already do. My ds is my number one priority. This is an internet forum so things come across differently than real life. Wish I hadn't posted now

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Helpisathand13 · 03/10/2016 21:45

I understand that. Just keep you and the little one safe as I am sure you will. Good you are apart and you have family to turn to. When it all happened it was a shock and late at night, MN a good option to vent and out pour. Posters can only read and process the info then respond. We don't feel the horror, emotion, pain, attachment but most of us know something similar and do try to empathise and provide help and support. Ultimately the choices we make are left to each of us after carefully weighing up the issues. Thanks for posting and reading our replies. best of luck. Xxx

horseygeorgie1 · 03/10/2016 21:51

If your DS is your priority then you need to get out, now. Even if you stay, one day it will be him. Or he will have to see his mum abused and beaten. Do not subject him to this. You have the strength.

galaxygirl45 · 03/10/2016 21:53

I would imagine that you are still very much in shock and making any decisions is hard when you're struggling with what's happened. I'm so sorry you're going through this, if you are truly safe then you can take the time to gather your thoughts and decide what to do next. Please talk to your mum and let her help you.

Helpisathand13 · 04/10/2016 22:46

If you are checking in Fairytoad, I'm just saying hello and hope you have managed to sort things at home in a way that is right for you and little one. Much love x

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