husband threatens divorce in arguments

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I don't know what to do as every big argument we have my husband threatens divorce. We had a big row (I'd like to think was a row but I hardly said anything) he shouted over me the whole time. He is such an angry man who loses his temper quickly. He hates being wrong, so if I point something out he shouts and swears at me to shut up, calls me unkind words and says no wonder he wants a divorce. He then storms off for a few hours sometimes a whole night to stay at his office.

I find this so hurtful and upsetting, I never get to finish what I was saying and he just swans back in the next day like nothing has happened. I feel bullied. Don't know how to handle it.??

Sounds win win! He says 'divorce' and you get to say 'OK', and not have to do any of the hard work.

Tell him you expect the papers by the end of the week and he'll be hearing from your solicitor.

"I've started the process.. Contacted CAB, and looked at lots of the links online. Feeling upset as u can imagine.
I don't feel at danger or anything, just hurt by his words and actions."

Well done for taking those steps. It's not easy and you should be proud of yourself. Keep going, one step at a time, and eventually you will start to feel better. It will probably be a rollercoaster of emotions but you will get there, and be SO much happier at the end.

He us incapable to put himself in your shoes and see his hurtful it is.
Regardless of where this is coming from, it doesn't mean you have to spend your life at the mercy of s bully.
But does it mean your dcs should be subjected to it either.

Well done to have taken these first steps. These are the hardest.
Carry on and find the anger within you. Anger at how he promised he would change but didn't (so he didn't keep his dude if the contract), anger at the way he is treating you, anger at the way he is treating your dcs.

And yes if it was you winding him up, there would be, it seems, a hell of a lot if people there ready to get at him and wind him up on purpose.
More likely that he can control himself (or can and us just a bully)

It's manufactured anger.

Get this vile man out of your children's lives. Now.

Or they will grow up and Hate you for allowing this, you won't see them for dust.

Or they end up growing up like him and abuse you the same.

There is no happy ending in your life with him in it.

2children from previous marriage. He constantly loses his temper with them

OP, as with PPs, it seems that you already know what you need to do. There's a stone in my heart for the pain this will cause to you and the children yet it will be better for all of you. Well done for knowing what is the right thing to do altho' it feels hard right now.

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@PacificDogwod, brilliantly said.

OP you don't own him your life and a marriage if he decides to treat you like this.

My husband also used to shout and stomp off. He says he wants a divorce now. I have to agree but I am worried about losing my contact with my 16-year old son who hardly talks to me.
Since son knows about divorce plan he says he was only friendly out of necessity, that I was over-emotional, wrong all the time and strange !

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