Well that's that then.

[Arkkorox]

DP broke up with me this evening after 7 years together.

He did it via facebook.

Apparently I haven't changed enough for him and it's too little too late.

One dd together.

Someone please tell me I will be okay cause im not sure.

[hellsbellsmelons]

You are a family.
You and your DD will be the perfect little family.
We all focus way too much on what a 'family' is.
Your DD needs you as her family.
Not some abusive bully, no matter how he is related to her.

It's been a long time.
You will grieve for the relationship you though you had and the one you wanted.
Unfortunately it's not panned out how it should have.
It's a loss and you need to treat it like one and let yourself get over it.
It will take time.
You will have highs and lows but you will get through it.
You will be happier, stronger, independent and fantastic mum!
Focus on that!

[user1471462290]

Good luck op, you can do it xxxx

My husband did that to me, & after it all I felt free it was an amazing feeling after all the heartache

[Mix56]

My God, this man is a abusive bastard, He broke up by Facebook, Does he have any decent points at all?
He has manipulated you from the beginning, EVERY. SINGLE. THING. you mention proves your future is going to be Fantastically improved by his scheming miserable arse leaving.
Rejoice, your life is about to be so much happier.
You are right
"Fuck Right Off". (& watch his surprise.)

[Arkkorox]

We had an argument because I asked him to be civil.

Cunt.

Everytime I see him his just a new wave of grief

[ThePinkOcelot]

OP, why aren't you jumping up and down with joy?! You should be!! He is an absolute asshole!! Onwards and upwards!!

[Arkkorox]

Because im heartbroken and scared and sad and tired and anxious and all these things all at once because I don't know if im going to be okay

[AnyFucker]

He made you feel that way

Him

When you cut him loose (properly) you will stop feeling like that

[ayeokthen]

Arkkorox the way you're feeling is completely normal. I felt like a wrung out dishcloth after XH left for weeks, but in time I felt free and on top of the world. Please stick with it, you are worth it!

[ayeokthen]

And you are going to be ok xxx

[Arkkorox]

When does it stop kicking you in the stomach the second you wake up? All I want to do is stay in bed and cry

[springydaffs]

Do the Freedom Programme

ASAP!

Sorry he's broken your heart. It's going to be the best possible thing for you. The Freedom Programme will show you why.

Keep going. You'll get through this

[Arkkorox]

I pick up the keys to my new house tomorrow. I should be excited but I just can't be

[user1472418611]

You will start to feel better day by day - I'm 2 months on from separation and my bad days are less than they used to be - stay strong, onwards and upwards and look after yourself and daughter. He doesn't deserve you and in time you will slowly start to realise he has done you a massive favour.

[Arkkorox]

I just re read all the comments here.

I can't beleive how much stronger I feel in just 6 days.

Moved into my lovely house ( almost) he's started the last two conversations, I've kept my answers short and haven't asked anything about him.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel after all

[fourquenelles]

Just popped by to say you rock Ark and here's a house warming virtual bunch of for you.

[Inertia]

You're doing brilliantly ! Keep him very very distant- and if he starts telling you that you've now 'improved' enough to be 'worthy' if him again, tell him where to shove it.

More housewarming

[Arkkorox]

Thank you. I keep feeling okay and then it's this totally overwhelming sense of greif and anxiety and it literally knocks sick. Someone tell me it does go away one day?

[kerryob]

It will get better, just keep reminding yourself you deserve better, you deserve to be happy your baby deserves to have a happy mum! Let yourself grieve that's normal and it ok to be sad, in time those feelings will pass x

[Arkkorox]

Every morning I forget for a second and then I remember and it's shit all over again. I feel like im not doing the right thing. Surely I should be fighting for this. I have every time before, I've begged him to let me have another chance. It feels wrong not to be doing it this time. I could be the person he wants me to be I just need to try harder.

[PenguindreamsofDraco]

Oh come off, you don't really believe that, do you?

[Arkkorox]

No penguins I don't but im so lost. It's panic isn't it. Go back to what's familiar even if it's shit because it's less terrifying than being all alone. I know I will be fine at some point but it really needs to hurry up. I wish I could look further down the line and see myself happy because it's not in my eyeline at the moment. That's what makes me want to run back.

[PenguindreamsofDraco]

Any relationship must be better than no relationship? Come off it.

You're not all alone, you have a child, who needs more than this. Big girl panties on time and get on with it. It doesn't matter whether you can see the light at the end of the tunnel yet, you just have to keep putting one foot in front of another until you can.

[Arkkorox]

You're right. Pants are on.

[Arkkorox]

Would counselling help? I don't know. I feel like I need to do something proactive about this before I find myself in another shit relationship. Do I ask to be refered at the doctors? Or through women's aid perhaps?

[Arkkorox]

Urgh. Last night he decided to tell me he's been to veiw some houses to buy. An hour and a half away. I can't decide if this is a good or bad thing. I can't believe he can walk away from dd like this.