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Dry 15

1001 replies

glad2016 · 06/09/2016 22:42

For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

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gottaloveascamhun · 16/09/2016 18:08

Thanks choc. Craving passed, I had lemonade and started making dinner to be busy. Comforting sausage and mash. Thanks for being here x

gottaloveascamhun · 16/09/2016 18:09

Tattoos that is truly minging! ! Good distraction your end x

gottaloveascamhun · 16/09/2016 18:10

4 weeks AF (one slip 6 days in). Considering it's Friday I think a craving is to be expected. Ah well, I'll be fine now I've eaten.

Tattoosandteadresses · 16/09/2016 19:17

Thoroughly disgusting gotta. Obviously the wee sod had hidden it as he knows no food is allowed upstairs. Bah, have to stop thinking about it now, my skin is crawling.

Glad you're feeling better and the lemonade and food helped. Same here. You're doing brilliant with 4 weeks AF!

Pimpernella · 16/09/2016 19:20

Well done for getting through.
I need a drink - I resigned this morning...

chocoholic89 · 16/09/2016 19:24

Well done gotta brill for passing your cravings.
My anxiety is through the roof recently been taking calms but not really helping maybe it's because I'm not drinking and seeing things differently.
Need to start going on my trainer at home put some energy into something and maybe feel better exercising. Hope everyone else is ok.

gottaloveascamhun · 16/09/2016 19:30

choc I can identify with the anxiety, in fact I had 3 months off sick at one point and needed strong meds. It's so difficult mentally and the physical symptims are horrible.
Pimpernella wow, well done for taking the plunge and resigning. Good for you!

gingersam · 16/09/2016 19:39

Hi all hope you are having a good evening I am a revolving door poster lurker because I am scared and angry about stopping drinking what will be my treat my reward my defuser of tension

chocoholic89 · 16/09/2016 19:42

Yeah it tough. Was asked to go out tmo night but have declined don't think I'm strong enough to be around people drinking think I made that mistake the other week.
Dp is doing well he hasn't even mentioned a drink so that makes it easier for me x

chocoholic89 · 16/09/2016 19:44

Welcome ginger

Pimpernella · 16/09/2016 19:47

Come on in Ginger. You are very welcome.

gingersam · 16/09/2016 19:49

Thanks just chatting to people who know how I feel or reading your posts helps I want to be "normal" but just can't moderate or whatever the heck that means Smile

Pimpernella · 16/09/2016 20:09

Neither can we!
We are hopeless around alcohol. You are in the right place!
I've been trying and failing to be normal for more than 15 years. It can be done. I am proof! Took some getting to and I might still lapse but I feel confident that I won't and that is a big deal for me.
What's your story?

Tattoosandteadresses · 16/09/2016 21:02

Big move Pimp, you feeling ok about it?

Welcome ginger, I cannot moderate either. You're in the right place Smile

That's ace with your dp sticking to it too choc

Anyone read anything to do with kindling? Basically how your body learns to react to alcohol with withdrawals and why you can't go back to 'normal' drinking. Apparently more common with binge drinking (like I've done). Scared the life out of me!

Pimpernella · 16/09/2016 21:29

I've not heard that term no Tattoo.

Huge move. Don't know how I feel really. I suppose mostly worried I've made a massive mistake but also a bit proud that I've done something so brave. One thing is for sure...could never have done it when me and DH were drinking away so much money...though we really won't manage on one wage either.
I've only got one life...right or wrong decision - I've tried to change something that is making me unhappy. That has to be good I think even if it goes wrong?

Tattoosandteadresses · 16/09/2016 22:06

Obviously you've weighed up your options and made the decision with a clear and sober head. I think that says a lot. You're right, life's too short to be stuck doing something that is making you miserable. Sometimes you have to take a chance. Really hope it works out for you and a wee Star for staying sober tonight too Smile

I would link one of the published articles but my tablet doesn't play ball with downloadable ones. Really just increasing and escalating withdrawal symptoms after repeated binge and withdrawal episodes. I think I found it scary as in my mind I thought I was 'safer' by 'just' binge drinking at times Hmm compared to constant drinking. That kind of knocked that theory out of the water. It can be a slippery slope either way.

gingersam · 16/09/2016 22:13

Hi my story is basically I look for opportunities to drink I hate going out without drinking i hide it lie about it let it effect my relationships get mad when I am hallenged about it
On the surface I am successful I have a good job a home a partner a child but I can't control drinking

glad2016 · 17/09/2016 00:35

I lapsed :( feel v bad and have so much family shit to deal with but no excuses. i DRANK COS I AM AN ADDICT. |Am back on it with Belle as support but am not feeling great tbh. Learn from my lapse, do not get cocky!

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vxa2 · 17/09/2016 04:05

Oh glad I am sorry to hear that but you are back here and that's brilliant. No one here will judge you. We are all here for you. Flowers

I can't remember but what support do you have IRL? Is it time to add something new to your sober toolbox?

Take care and if you need to talk about what happened or about ANYTHING, talk away.

gottaloveascamhun · 17/09/2016 06:07

I don't know if it was these threads that recommended Twinings green gingerbread tea but for any lovers of ginger, it is lovely! Nice caffeine free evening drink.
feeling a bit guilty for going to bed so early every night e.g. 8pm but I can't keep my eyes open. I read a bit in bed then zonk out. OH is a bit lonely on his own perhaps... but he does like his own space. Waking at 6am ready to start the day feeling good so that's great.
Have a peaceful relaxing weekend everyone.

vxa2 · 17/09/2016 07:34

glad how are you feeling this morning. Did you get some rest ? Is today your first day - this time round ? Flowersxx

glad2016 · 17/09/2016 07:57

Yes. I lapsed Thurs night :( Spent yesterday feeling really horrible and low. Why do I do it? I had so many sober days, so much sober momentum and then I went and drank :(

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glad2016 · 17/09/2016 07:59

Trying to think positive and reset my attitude but its proving hard. :(

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TapasGirl · 17/09/2016 08:00

glad we are all so vulnerable to the witch but as others have said its goid that you are here. You have been so suppportive to oyhers in your posts now direct that support to yourself. Take care x
Day 17 went to my lovely friends last night for dinner its usually a very boozy night lots of sparkly then wine. My gorgeos friend said she woukd join me in my tonic and lime then we moved on to mint and liquorice tea😀.
I said she really didnt have to and we realised we were still having the same chatter and laughter so made us both stop and think about our need to drink. I just ate much more pud than i ever would.

Out again tonight but driving. Feeling quite liberated as not having to think about taxis, timings cost.

Hi ginger stay with this thread everyone is so in tune with how you will be feeling. If I can you can too.

Happy Saturday to you all x

Tattoosandteadresses · 17/09/2016 09:50

Oh glad, don't beat yourself up about it. I've done weeks, months and nearly a year in one case and still drank because yes, I'm an addict and it's my default for when the shit hits the fan (amongst the myriad of 'reasons' I have given myself). You are here now not months down the line, which is excellent Flowers. I read somewhere on a different, unrelated thread on here yesterday 'those who never made a mistake never made anything' and it spoke to me that all we can do is keep trying and learning from those mistakes. I know it's hard to pick uo the momentum again and feel positive about it, I felt that last week but lots of self care and going back to start watching and reading some sober articles, seeing myself as worth it has helped. If you need to post, post away, you've been a great support to everyone else on the thread and we are all here for you Flowers

Ginger, very much relate to your post. Hope you keep posting Smile

That was me that recommended it gotta , it's bloody lovely isn't it. My go-to green tea at the moment. I adore anything with ginger in it.

First week rounded off again last night so feeling positive about making it through a Saturday night. Busy day planned so catch up later and hope everyone enjoys their day.

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