Dry 15

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For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

Hi guys, sorry not to have been around lately, just a quick question - do any of you use the headspace app ? Which one ?, thanks lilyn🌷

Hi all.
Not really much to report been feeling really down this evening no drink tho. I remember someone on hear saying all the pressure is on them kids,house,partner a while ago that's me atm hopefully get a early night and start a fresh day tommorra.

qz.com/762868/giving-up-alcohol-opened-my-eyes-to-the-infuriating-truth-about-why-women-drink/ choc this is quite long but brilliant, it might help. Hope you're ok.

Matron perseverance is the only way - I should have given up at aged 26 when I first went to AA.. but it took me another 10 years to get the courage up to commit myself - I guess I've always been scared of failure..but we have to fail to succeed and if that means failing 20 times, then so be it if it means we'll come to success - ie sobriety.. X

lily I use headspace - about to reach 180 consecutive days :) Really helpful :)

I've managed two days without wine consecutively!

Morning all, a good nights sleep and I feel so much better. Positive and relieved to be back on the sober trail. Very busy day ahead but that's good. Well done butterbean on your two days and I hope everyone is feeling good today!

Good morning ladies. Welcome back matron and welcome to the newbies. Glad you found us sober bee Allington is tonight one of the eveningswhen you take your DD to her activity ? Have you got a plan ? If you can get through that trigger time and do it several times it will get so much better.

Day 202 for me today. X

Hey vxa it's given my a really good feeling knowing you are on day 202! Fantastic news.

It's so important to me to know there are people that are strong out there.

I am at 5 weeks today - longest I have done apart from pregnancy in the last 20 years.

well done butterbean !

Arggggg, a plan. Still haven't really got one. Perhaps a trip to the library. I need to avoid shops. Reading a book is great, but not very comfortable in the car, and all the cafes are in shopping malls etc which have places selling alcohol. I can make sure I'm not hungry or thirsty. Tired - well, yes, I will be.

Allington you really do need a plan. Are you not allowed to stay on the place where your daughter does her activity? Do you have to go out and about ? Play the tape forward and imagine how it will work out if you drink and how great you will feel if you don't. Take it literally minute by minute and the craving will eventually pass. It's hard but the bottom line is that only you can do this and it's hard. But it does get easier over time and it is so worth it. X

jojo I am jealous. I'm in the broken sleep weird dreams phase.

Gotta I read the article you posted. Very interesting. Thanks for posting it.

miss I have so much admiration for sober 20 somethings. What insight to get a grip so young!

If I think about my drinking it literally drives me deeper into the drinking cycle.

Alli and butterbean I'm with you guys tonight, early days and maximum planning required! Baths all round.

Alli can you go swimming whilst your DD is busy? Or download one of those walking apps and do 10,000 steps?

lou I can remember your early posts and I'm chuffed to bits you have got 5 weeks to your name.

Ps notice how I suggest 10,000 steps for others but a bath for myself

Chirpy by day but always struggling from 5.30-8.30. I am so irritated. But will keep level headed after all I can't be having one of my dramas after only 3 days.

Matron have you tried the alcohol free beers? They have REALLY helped me this time. I remember being so irritated on day 3, it was a Friday night and I was royally pissed off, cooking dinner which is a time when I used to love a glass of something. Anyway I had bought some becks blue and popped a couple whilst cooking and by golly it was brilliant!

It is harder this time of year I think as during the summer I could take myself out for a long dog walk at about this time but now with the nights drawing in, it certainly makes for a long evening! I have just started an exercise class a couple of times a week and that is good for wasting away a bit of time

Swimming - not in UK and about 2 public swimming pools for 5 million people walking a good idea, I could do that.

Fail to plan, plan to fail the nearest library is closed as a tree fell on it... Walking definitely possible though - there's a plan for tomorrow.

Hi All,

Thought I would pop by. I've dipped in and out of these threads but never posted. Unsure if I qualify - I don't struggle with drinking any longer thank goodness but I am a sober alcoholic. Approaching 11 years, got sober in AA when I was 27. Still go to meetings though as drink was killing me and I don't want to go back there. I remember the last days of drinking and the early days of sobriety like they were yesterday.

Thank you count - I would love to hear from you with all your insight. 11 years sober is brilliant - wow. I am blown away. I have so much I would like to ask !!

Allington - how are you getting on? You have said about a plan for tomorrow. How is today ?

Delighted if I can help in any way

AF day so far :-) told husband about giving up this morning, he came home with flowers and alcohol free wine, made me tearful that I have his support. This time of day is the hardest. Trying to stay busy...

Bee that's wonderful. Telling my DH was such a big step because I was so ashamed but he has been completely supportive. He actually stopped with me although he had always been able to take or leave drinking whereas I don't have an off button. It will be so much better having your DH to talk to honestly.

count thanks for posting its a big boost to read about the happy sober lives of others.

Thanks vxa, we're the same - DH has always been able to drink in moderation whereas I can't. It's great to have him on side, but am now terrified of letting him down. I can't face the thought of him being disappointed with me. It feels like there is more pressure now. I'm trying to see it as additional 'motivaton' rather than pressure which makes me want a drink as that is the default answer to stress or worry..