Dry 15

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For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

Morning all. I'm feeling very stressed and anxiety is bad had a really bad time with dp. He being a tWat.
Going to take dc out shopping and go to my parents iv made that plan so I don't think like I use to and think oh il feel better after a drink! Happy Friday everyone get your nice little treats in for tonight x

Hi choc. Sorry you're feeling stressed out and your day improves. Yes I used to look forward to drinking when feeling anxious, it's good to break free from that. Hope you manage some relaxation.
Tough week here- children ill, feeling stresed today. I won't drink though.

Hi all

Sorry to hear about people's stressful days. I've not been looking forward to tonight as it's Friday night = drinking night. I've been anxious for the past hour or so; ideallly, I'd go to bed now.

It's curry night so I've bought alcohol -free lager to have with it - I don't drink lager normally so it won't be an issue for me. I like sharp, bitter tastes and not many soft drinks cut it. I've also got dark chocolate if needed!

I'm determined to enjoy tonight, not just 'get through' it. Good food, crap TV - thinking about waking up happy in the morning. Just feel a bit sad. The mourning period is starting I think

Oh Margaret your night sounds like mine. There brill. Yes u will wake up in the morning feeling fresh having had a decent night sleep and no illness from the drink. I use to spend my wkd hungover not being able to do things with my family I still have my anxiety bcouse yeah Friday use to be drink night but I have started to see it as relax night! X

gotta get your dc in bed then enjoy the peace

They are finally in bed!! So am I. With pudding, gingerbread tea and Life After Life (nearly finished). Have accepted the fact that I'm not ok today and that's fine as I won't drink. Feeling quite overwhelmed with responsibility of being mum and keeping going, looking after everyone else. Hubby is been away this week and is out all day tomorrow. He watches football which seems to take about 8 hours, don't understand that! Still, the kids are gradually getting better, I made it in to work this week and nothing disastrous has happened. I hope this feeling of dread passes soon.
Margaret you are doing really well, keep it up! Weekend nights are bound to be hardest but it sounds like you've got this. Enjoy your sober clarity tomorrow morning!

I am quite proud of myself today even tho iv just eaten too much takeaway I woke up this morning so annoyed with my dp I took myself out of the situation and instead of having myself dwell on the situation while he at work I carried on with my day without fretting and then drinking. I had a lovely day also stripped my whole room before he got bk. I thought it was a big fu to him lol that I am not guna let him ruin my day and I can change and not turn to drink. He apologised I didt react my old self. Gold star for me

choc

Up early with with DD. Never going to be a 'leap out of bed' type, but I feel so calm this morning; just sitting with a cup of tea is perfect at the moment.

Other things to report (to myself if no one else):
• skin looks so much better. I have splashed on skin stuff this week so actually using it at night, rather than falling into bed pissed, helps. I've been on long term antibiotics for rosacea but that looks like it's clearing.
• I ate loads yesterday but I'm still losing weight. My appetite seems to have come back and I'm eating much better.
• DH and I had words last night. I won't go into it now. I dealt with it better sober. Some underlying issues we have have given me pause for thought in all this.

A busy ish day and Strictly tonight. My Fitbit addiction continues so a big walk planned too. Hope everyone has a good day.

Feeling quite overwhelmed with responsibility of being mum and keeping going, looking after everyone else.

This gotta absolutely resonates with me.

Well done Margaret hope you have a nice walk.
gotta I hope you too have a easier day and your dc are feeling better soon.
My days already started I have 2 dc under 5 so early starts for me. But good because I no longer hide under my blanket wishing I could lie there all day. Hoping to have a healthy day today feel like I need lots of green tea and fruit.

Are all you newbies ok?

Feeling quite overwhelmed with responsibility of being mum and keeping going, looking after everyone else.

Me too.

REALLY wanted to drink this morning, no motivation to do anything else... luckily some library books were overdue and the library shuts at midday, so hoicked myself and DD into the car. Then once we were dressed and out ended up going for a walk, and with comforting DD about something she was upset about and making sure the dog we're looking after for the weekend didn't get eaten by a bigger dog I didn't have time to think of drink and I promised DD to take her to the cinema this afternoon, so I'm sorted until about 4pm today...

and chose some more books which will help keep me occupied...

Allington that sounds positive, keeping busy is key . Cinema is a good idea for chilled out afternoon.
choc thanks for the 💐. I was in a vile mood this morning as DH hadn't bothered to unstack dishwsher or take bins out last night, he just say on the sofa boozing. His turn for lie in this morning so I did it all. This week I've done all the cooking, all the night time get ups with poorly kids, all the general stuff. And he has gone out all day to watch football etc. But, I'm in a much better mood- took kids out to the woods and did lovely outdoor stuff. They are better now and fresh air very restorative for us all. Movie on now so I'm chilling in the kitchen and not doing any more washing etc!

Good morning!

How is everyone today?

Hello everyone - happy Sunday!

I'm gearing up for 150 days on Thursday - don't think I'll do anything special, but have bought myself 3 new dresses to celebrate being a new slim sober me this weekend.

Feeling quite overwhelmed with responsibility of being mum and keeping going, looking after everyone else.

I think that this really resonated with me too - I've had to learn how to be better at looking after myself - previously, I had to poison myself to get some time for me - now I choose what I want to do. I still do the majority of the stuff - actually, probably more than when I was drinking - but I am choosing what to do, and choosing to nuture myself too. The kids seem to be coping with it.

A friend told me that to get through giving up alcohol, you have to learn to be selfish - nothing is more important that your sobriety, not your partner, not your kids.

It's a scary thing to hear, but for me it's been useufl to help me carve out space for myself, without having to use drinking and hangovers to justify it...

Hope you'll all having a great time

White knuckled in pub garden at lunchtime. Very close to choosing wine but I didn't. Very glad I chose lemonade. Exhausted by inner struggle but relieved!

gotta Well done!

Congrats on your 150 days finish.

Well done gotta, those moments are when you find your strength.

Many many congrats finnish on your milestone and everything else you've achieved.

Going to bed ridiculously early to try and get one up on the week.

X

Well done Finnish- an awesome achievement!

Newbie here. Not been good. I am going to a drop in support type place tomorrow. Got told today by the doc I also have to go on a no dairy, no red meat, no egg, low carb diet and to lose a load of weight. Feeling pretty down but I know no booze will help. It's just all overwhelming.

Hi boy welcome is today your day 1?
Support on here is brill and post away as many times as you need it really does help.

Today is day 1. Again.

Welcome boy. Did you tell your Dr about your drinking ? I went to a drop in with my local addictions service and they were really helpful. You have taken a really big step. Everyone here is so supportive. Keep posting as much as you want. X