Help On Verge of Cheating!

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Hi
Please be kind as this is my first ever message on mumsnet. I have been married for 14 years and we have 3 children together all below the age of 13, our marriage has always been stable but in the last six months I have become unhappy as our sex life is dwindling and my husband makes no effort to instigate anything or be more affectionate. I have been in contact with an ex on fb who is also unhappy in his relationship for the same reasons and we have become very close again and are in the throws of an emotional affair, we are meeting up and I know where it will lead if we do. I am torn between my husband and my ex and I have feelings for both, help me please

You're going to do it anyway OP. Regardless of what people on here will say.

But your marriage WILL end if this is what it's come too. Find the guts to tell your husband. Find yourself somewhere to live and just hope that your kids will want to continue to see you.

And remember, safe sex and get yourself regularly checked for STI's.

Hey OP. I have a different view. If you a genuinely in love with the ex and truly believe that he is the person you want to be with then you know what you have to do.

If however it's just a desire to sleep with him you got to ask yourself whether 30 minutes of grunting and sweating is worth the fall out.

Good luck OP, it's a difficult one X

*Yep the groupthink continues.

Monogamy=only way

Desire outside marriage BAD BAD BAD

you must LTB IMMEDIATELY*

When you are married yes monogamy is the only way, you signed a contract to that very effect. If you are unhappy then change your life and separate so you are both free to not hurt others, it's that simple Katie.

You keep banging on about an MN mentality = vast majority of strangers on here disagree with affairs - thank god we do!

Desire outside marriage does not equate to shagging another married person, you are just twisting the situation to suit your own perspective, perhaps you yourself enjoy having sex with people who are in relationships, who knows!