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My partner just hit me....

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Maria25 · 13/08/2016 07:51

Twice around the head and face. I'm in shock. He has never really been violent towards me at all. I don't know what to think, I feel strangely numb. He is crying and crying now.

I can't stay can I? I've been through it before with my daughters dad and only just now coming to terms with what I went through with him.

My partner is my soulmate and we love it each other so much, I can't believe he has done this, I trusted him and now I feel like the world's biggest idiot

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FellOutOfBed2wice · 15/08/2016 10:34

And yes to posters saying tell the police. One of my biggest regrets is that I never did and by the time I felt strong enough to the worst physical bits had healed.

0hCrepe · 15/08/2016 10:35

He ruined his own life. You've done him and yourself a favour.

FellOutOfBed2wice · 15/08/2016 10:42

RTFT now and see you're being incredibly strong, brave and wise, OP. for you.

Atenco · 15/08/2016 12:18

This louse is like his cousins the headlice, no shame in getting them as long as you get rid of them as soon as you find out what they are.

perdita2016 · 15/08/2016 17:40

You have been so incredibly brave Maria. It's not easy. None of this is your fault so please don't blame yourself. No one has the right to lay a hand on you under any circumstances and men who do this are scum. I am glad that you are safe and have reported this to the police.
I also left one abusive relationship and moved on to another one. I'm still in the process of trying to understand why I ended up in a similar situation for the second time. I suppose it just takes time.

Edie30 · 16/08/2016 01:44

Maria, it's not your fault.
He's not your soul mate.
He's ruined his own life.
You're not alone and I'm terribly sorry that this has happened. It must be traumatic going through this a second time - again this not your fault. You did the right thing reporting him.
Take good care OP. I really feel for you.

Redglitter · 16/08/2016 02:18

If you haven't already done so arrange to get your locks changed if he has keys to your flat

sarahnova69 · 16/08/2016 13:20

Maria

Be very kind to yourself for a while and lean on support. You did nothing wrong, you have been very strong, and you will trust again when you are ready. Take care of yourself. Try to treat yourself like you would a much-loved friend going through a rough time.

Alfiemoon1 · 25/08/2016 23:12

Just wondering how u are doing Maria X

VanellopeVonSchweetz99 · 25/08/2016 23:21

Maria how is your head/face?
I had a 'soul mate' like him once ... until he pushed me down some stairs. Never spoke again despite sharing a home etc. No DCs though thank god.
Please don't walk, run.
Big hugs.

AskBasil · 25/08/2016 23:25

Please don't feel bad and don't feel you ruined his life.

You haven't done anything wrong. He has. He brought this upon himself. And you have no need to feel ashamed or stupid, the reason you loved him is because he didn't do this when you fell in love with him.

You've done the right thing; you've drawn the line and you've left. You've taught your DD a fantastic lesson: she doesn't have to take shit from a man. You should remember that and feel proud, because one day, she'll look back at this weekend and feel so proud of her mum for taking the stand you did.

Honestly, well done. Be kind to yourself and proud of yourself.

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