My partner just hit me....

[Maria25]

Twice around the head and face. I'm in shock. He has never really been violent towards me at all. I don't know what to think, I feel strangely numb. He is crying and crying now.

I can't stay can I? I've been through it before with my daughters dad and only just now coming to terms with what I went through with him.

My partner is my soulmate and we love it each other so much, I can't believe he has done this, I trusted him and now I feel like the world's biggest idiot

He can hit you he can hate you. It's not going to go away.

Can you walk out to a neighbour?

You are not an idiot. I found the DV helpline a great support. Don't believe the tears. It is a tactic to make you feel sorry for him so that he can abuse you again in the future.
You do not deserve this but you deserve so much better. Men like this abuse women who are kind and loving.

You are being so strong by taking the steps needed to remove him from your life.

Hold onto that. You're a good person.

Him having his friends over for a couple of hours in the middle of the night? Wtaf?

Sounds like he has alcohol problems. Does he use any drugs? Just wondering what was keeping him and his mates up all night.

You're not the world's biggest idiot. He is violent, he made a choice to hit you.

Hope you're safe

Hope you are ok OP you are doing the right thing.

I'm at my mum's around the corner. I had to just walk out with no shoes on. I'm devastated but not physically hurt. Thank you all so much, I'm trying to be strong.

It's my flat, police on their way X

Well done OP. Stay strong. No one deserves to be treated like that.

Well done you. You've absolutely done the right thing. What he has done is a criminal offence. It is assault. Stay strong and keep telling yourself that none of this is your fault. Let us know how it goes. xx

Well done, right thing to do.

I'm interested by your wording "never really been violent".

Suggests some questionable behaviour (aggressive stance, shouting, swearing?).

Keep us updated OP, I'm so relieved you called the police. It sounds like a pretty messed up night.

Well done for calling the police op.

and for you, OP. Keep being strong, talk to your mum and to us if you want to, you can and will get this abusive monster out of your life. Well done for calling the police, there can be no way back for him.

Well done, OP. Stay strong!

you've done the right thing. This man is not your soul mate. Sending strength your way x

Well done OP you're dealing with it brilliantly

Once he is out and you are back home, don't forget to change the locks love. Take care of yourself.

You're all so bloody lovely. I'm so grateful for your replies and thoughts. The police haven't got anyone to deal with this morning and as I'm now not in immediate danger, we've agreed an appointment this afternoon at 2.30 with a dv officer to take a statement. It's all sadly familiar to me.
I didn't call his parents, they are such lovely people and I know that they are going on a day out today that's been planned for ages so I don't want to spoil it. He can tell them why I won't be a part of their family from now on. They'll be so disappointed with him.
My lovely cousin is on her way and I'm going to stay with her. I think he is still at the flat, hopefully sleeping the drink off. My daughter is not due back from my sisters until late tomorrow afternoon so I hope I'll have a better idea of what's what then
Another poster asked if he has been violent before - aggressive yes, but not physically violent.

Thank you all again.

Hang on - is he not going to be arrested? How come he is still at your house and you are out?

stay and he'll hit you again. and again and again.
and he'll cry and cry and cry and cry and you'll take him back and there'll be a slow build up of steam till he releases it by clobbering you again.
an endless cycle of fear and violence.
ditch him immediately.
contact the cops.
tell all your friends and family what he did.
scum like him need to be exposed to the world.
prick.

Hi Maria, I'm so sorry you are going through this. From the info you provided I think there's no doubt that if you stay he will hit you again and hurt you worse. That he put you in a headlock is deeply disturbing - that is very high risk behaviour. I'm a believer that people do not turn into different people when they're drunk/high - they merely indulge impulses and tendencies they've always had.

You clearly have a deep well of inner strength and self-respect. Well done for leaving and for calling the police. We're here for you. Stay safe.