First time post - but so angry need another point of view! SIL babysat on Saturday only second time ever - she is single no kids - DS now 9 months old. We were staying at MILs who is disabled. She arrived by taxi stating that she didn't like driving at night which was kind of unusual but took her at face value.
Came back slightly earlier than anticipated so I could drive them home and found SIL drinking her usual red wine (nothing under 13% proof will do!). My face dropped but I kept my cool - DH was upset and disappointed but neither of us said anything at the time - no point when both DH and SIL been drinking. I drove SIL home and made small talk en route - she had clearly been drinking but she made no reference.
The first time she babysat we asked her not to drink whcih she agreed to but made some sarcastic comment. In the morning DH made comment to MIL who defended SIL saying it was only 1 glass (which I would hotly dispute) and then turned on the tears which made DH back down.
So there it is left - DH will do anything to avoid challenging MIL and SIL who are both very emotionally manipulative of him. I feel outraged - OK DS is fine but that isn't the point - I'm not drinking so why would I think it was ok to leave him with someone who was.
I'd be happy never to leave DS with them again but this means that DH doesn't get to see his friends in hometown. I'm afraid this can't be left and DH can't stick his head in the sand but how far do I go in forcing the issue with him!
I have in law issues - in the sense that they have absolutley no regard for me - I could be invisible - but they outwardly appear to dote on DS.
Nightmare help!!