dp said we're over.

[Feelingsolow12345]

dp said we're over but can't gather up myself to actually leave the house. I'm standing outside the front door but my legs won't walk to leave with my son.

Many many abusers true colours only show once the partner is pregnant or after giving birth. It's very well known

So very true.

I noticed a new low every time I entered into a new level of commitment with my ex - moving in, marrying.

Don't go back, this man won't change. Another one saying do The Freedom Programme and concentrate on yourself and your son, not this pathetic man child.

if that means him leaving a plate on the side I have to clean it

He wanted a slave, not a partner.

Even if it is depression he isn't worth it because this is who he is. If he is ill remember

You didn't cause it
You cannot cure it
You cannot control it

And I'd bet my last penny that he doesn't miss you, he misses his domestic slave/sex dispenser.

You need to focus on the longest and most important relationship in your life: you.

You've done all the parenting so far and getting out am showing your child that this is not how relationships are supposed to be. You need to stay out.

Any communication with him should solely be about Co parenting, as it is just about possible he could do that competently. But for now steer well clear.

Good luck.

still haven't unblocked him just waiting for his mum to contact me.

on another note my ds just fell over and banged his head as he was screaming and kicking. he just kept crying till I gave him some milk now he's asleep.

also I'll look into the freedom program and going to concentrate on my son.

Yes, concentrate on your son and on you.

Don't give the twat head space. Plan your life and live it. Regardless of him (or his mother).

And in relation to your son, let him approach you and ask for contact. Just facilitate it, don't make it your job for it to happen.

why would his mum contact you? Is she mean too?

You can do the Freedom Programme online btw

She just buts in when it comes to her son and grandson. We went away and she took over the night Fred while I was half way through feeding my son

So the apple didn't fall too far from the tree?

I'm sorry Feeling, but I really think you need to face up to this being over.

He sounds very immature and a million miles away from seeking help to change.

You may well find that once you have got a new life and home sorted out your pnd improves to the point of clearing up.

Often victims of ea see their entirely normal, rational response to living with an unsupportive, bullying and outright nasty abuser, as being depressed or mentally unwell in some way. But actually it's just the mental distress they feel as a result of living with their abusive partner.

Have you read Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft? I think you really need to educate yourself about emotional abuse so that the next relationship you have is a loving, supportive and EQUAL one.