AIBU "intruders" in laws

[OneAppleADay]

Hi
I live in a house with two entrances, the main one that leads to the hall and the back glass door that leads directly to the living room.
To get to the back door one has to open the gate to the garden and go around the house.
I am used to go around in comfortable clothes when I am home, like for example light clothes, no bra, just a t-shirt and VERY short shorts. So, the kind of clothes you don't want to be seen in.
The thing is, my BIL uses to show up without a notice (which is almost enough to annoy me), but also comes trough the back door, coming straight in as it is usually unlocked. What a terrible surprise. Last time I was just coming out from the shower and had zero clothes on me, apart from the towel.
Does it happen with everyone? I mean, is that an acceptable behavior?
AIBU to feel annoyed?

Cozie yes, I just said "OMG you scared me! I don't expect people to come that way, you see..."
She totally got it and apologized. Never again.

I think you do have to have a hissy fit if you really can't lock the door, even for a few weeks while they get used to using the front door.

I would also talk to your DH again about how much it upsets you, ask if he thinks there are ways the gate could be locked (code lock on it so that you can give the DCs the code but not family maybe?), the back door etc. See if he gets that this isn't something you just need to get used to, you are going to find a way to make it stop - it might just get him motivatedto have a proper chat with BIL. If this is the 'norm' for his family, he may well not really understand how much it upsets you, and how much you intend to make it stop.

Agree with DinosaursRoar, throw a wobbly. Let him catch you naked and blow up in all your glory.

WTF, piss off you fucking perv! You've been told before, OUT before I rip your bloody off!

OP shouldn't have to lock her back door - what if she likes it open for fresh air or access to garden/veranda? Nor should she have to worry about what to wear in case of people spying through her BACK windows - it's her home and private space.

I like to sunbathe topless in my garden - should I stop that in case some idiot decides to come around to the back of my house instead of using my easily accessible front door.
OP deserves privacy and quiet enjoyment of her home which she is not getting. (but she does need to grow a pair and tell them it's totally unacceptable herself)

Lol
I will do that. Padlock to begin with and see what comes next. 😁

I actually have serious doubts whether your DH has really told him in plain language, I'm afraid. He may think he has - quite genuinely - but a great deal can be lost in translation between brothers.

That's my point Sanity. Yes, I do need to grow a pair.

Yes, you may be right cozie

so your bil knows not to walk in unannounced and uninvited yet still does......maybe he gets a perverse kick out of seeing you almost naked?

if you can't keep your door unlocked then you have to keep your gate padlocked....it's basic common sense if you value your privacy and like to walk about in your birthday suit.

it's also basic security if you have dc who play in the garden. it isn't just so your dc don't wander out, it's also to deter strangers from walking in unannounced and uninvited. It only takes seconds to snatch a child and they could being and out your garden without you knowing. at least with a padlock you know you're doing all you can to keep your dc safe.

In the past I've had projects where I've needed to get people to do what they are supposed to be doing.

On occasion they've not taken stuff seriously, not followed through or failed to see the reason for precise ffing measurements when I'm transporting a precision unit from one end of the Ffing country to slot into a space at the other ffing end of the country.

Literally id had the nice convo, I'd done the explaining convo, not a flicker of recognition.

So I apologised to the colleagues around me that before I could come to the pub, I needed to bollock someone.

So I did.

Then I went down the pub.

Everyone was 😱😮😯

But it worked!

Sometimes you have to go apeshit.

And by bollocking someone I meant pick up the phone to the other end of the country, give said bollocking, say thanks and goodbye and then end the call with a "have a good weekend"

Thoroughly British bollocking 😂