Dp and I have been together nearly 8 years it's has been a bit rocky at times but we've come together and moved on. Well I say that today is dp's birthday, he doesn't like a great fuss so just an ordinary day with work. He loves lamb so I thought I'd get some lamb steaks for dinner. Got in and he's just as quiet as yesterday. I started the dinner and he comes and asks me if I would mind if he had something else, he'd do his own stuff. I was surprised as lamb is his favourite. He then complained that the steaks were really thin and not proper. I had paid £10 for 4 m&s steaks so that he could have three if he so wished or there would be enough for leftover lunch!!! I didn't say this, I just kept calm. The thing is, he has been quiet since Monday night when he had a strop, we were having sex and when I changed position he tried to force my head in the direction he wanted me to go. I absolutely hate that and has made him aware of this before. He said that I like it but I insisted no and told him that instead he should tell me what he wanted, he got out of bed and slammed the door ( he had had a few beer). So when he all of a sudden has a problem with a lamb dinner I thought there is more to it. I calmly asked if he's alright and if this had anything to do with the other night. He started swearing about the steaks and how rubbish there were (they are so not) and said that if he had a problem with the other night he'd say so, well from experience I know that this is not the case, he can stew over things for days and I have addressed this before telling him I'm not a mind reader and refuse to walk on egg shells. I said that I was just checking and if he's in a quiet mood that's fine. I packed the food away as I quite frankly wasn't in the mood to cook anything (in fact I felt like screaming my head off but that would just make the situation worse). I went to the bedroom to read. He started banging doors and eventually I got up and asked what's going on but got no answer. He then decided to go to bed, and as I picked up my book and closed the door I heard him say something so I opened the door again and asked if he said something. He answered yes thank you for ruining my birthday bitch. I was gobsmacked, he's never talked to me like that before! I preceded to then open the door and shouted don't you ever talk to me like that again and then wait for it... finished with a "your bastard". Oh dear I feel I let myself down by saying that last part...
AIBU?? I don't think so but what do I do?