Sensitive/embarrasing

[Creativewitch]

Sorry for the name change.

I don't have much of a sex drive but I do make the effort and me and DP make love around once or twice a week.

The think is he doesn't seem to climax often, we use condoms as I'm scared of pregnancy and don't trust the pill and he's never complained but could this be the reason he's finding it so hard?

I'm worried that it's me, I've had two children and needed stitches with my first and I'm not sure it was done properly as it doesn't "look" right down there, could this be it?

The only other thing is that DH is a little on the "small" side, that sounds awful and I'm not complaining (it does the job!) but could this be the problem?

TIA

Maybe he doesn't have much of a sex drive either and is also 'making the effort' ?
Talk to him about it.
Don't think anything ever 'looks right' down there after having a baby!!

He does have a big sex drive though, its always him that makes the move and then he gets narked if I turn him down so he must want it... if it was left to me to make the first move it would be more like once a year! lol

Getting down to the nitty gritty, hope you don't mind.
If he's a little on the small side and you've had 2 kids, do you do pelvic floor exercises?
I notice a difference myself when i eventually remember to do them and so does my dp.
sorry if too personal