I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

Oh well done Prof from me too. Fingers crossed for you.

I am loving the bold move Prof..... I still think I am right though so will be hitting refresh until my suspicions are confirmed

Haha thank you everyone! I don't think I've ever completed my work out so quickly
No replies as of yet, I will let you know as soon as I know what he says!

Just imagine the anticipation on Thursday!!!

This is going to be a full on week

It is, isn't it! It's exciting
I have a bad feeling about my situation and still find it exciting. There's something thrilling about sending a risky text message

Hopefully we can get this out of the way today and then we can focus on This and B!!

But now with Prof and This taking the metaphorical bull by its horns.... what will the next 30 pages consist of??

Joy I hope

Your turn next duchess

Prof, Crazy, Muddle, Silvery, I had a friend over the other night, a therapist, and I was mentioning my fear of the direct approach re: asking B out. I'm writing this simply because there is a clear message for us all, I believe. She told me that B's answer was not the most important point here. If he says no (which as most of you know by now is what I'm expecting for several reasons) I am not being rejected as a person. The 'no' would come from his state of mind, his current life, NOT me as a person. Therefore I should not judge my quality as a woman based on that 'no'.

What is important, she continued to say, (and now I'm grappling to translate from French) is that I accept myself as a woman and my desire to date again. By asking directly; 'would you like to go out for a drink' I am acknowledging my desires and not running away from the fear of connecting with him.

At first I couldn't see how my fear of opening up to him was a fear of connecting. I DO see what she means though. I'm terrified of making my feelings known. About being transparent. It makes me feel vulnerable.

In Prof's situation she has less to lose as she may not see him again. My friend told me that the emotional crutch of a good car mechanic wasn't as important to me now as it was after my husband left. I could, if needs be, find another one. I just need to be brave and honest with myself and the men who interest me.

Crazy, I'm quite certain we will fill this thread and another one after that with plenty of thoughts, fears and adventures.

Wow This that therapist sounds awesomely spot on.

Yes, Silvery, she is good. She knows I have a tendency to see things through rose-tinted glasses and that I'm a people pleaser, particularly with my children. She is able to convey direct messages to me in a kind manner.

She also happens to be my youngest daughter's best friend's mother.

When's the boiler being installed, then?

It must have taken courage to speak up to Lovely Man when you confessed how you felt after his return from holiday Silvery?

Lol Sweeney I am working on it

What an insightful therapist you have there This and I wholeheartedly agree with the sentiment that rejection is about them not us!

No doubt you'll be down the park looking for unsuspecting men to relieve them of their tops lol
Got to agree with this's friend...it's definately the blokes problem in this and profs scenario...

Just updating quickly, he's replied saying yes of course he wants to and has asked why.
I'm unsure what to say! It's been a bit of an anticlimax maybe or I don't know. Why are words so hard?
I'll be back properly in about 20 mins!

Good news Prof! Now, let's get things moving...

How about writing:

"Good. Then, this is the point where you and I pick a day when we can meet up. Nice and simple."

I hope he likes a straight talking woman

If that's who you are Prof that's what he's going to get!

Yes This it did take courage, but my divorce had made me a braver woman :) And of course he had made the first move 2 weeks earlier. Note my delivery though - staring at the floor and speaking quickly so I couldn't stop myself .

My divorce is making me a heck of a lot stronger too Silvery in many aspects of my life. Men whom I'm strongly attracted to? I still have a lot of work to do.

And, yes, it is true that B made the first move too Silvery; I must remember that in the grand scheme of things.

I'm feeling a little bit like I shouldn't be having to do this, but chin up and all that

Since my son was born I've become a bit of a straight talker. So much better than I was! Never harsh, just truthful and more open!

Like I said prof...he's prob scared shitless and hopes you'll sort it out...one down one to go...come on this...your turn now