I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

Good Morning how're you today? Saturday night is the last time I heard from him This. If we had arranged a date, even if it was weeks from now, I wouldn't really mind the infrequent messages but it's the lack of contact teamed with him not arranging a date when I've mentioned it etc.

You'd think it'd be straight forward when two people admit to liking eachother?
And because of that I feel fairly certain that nothing will come of this!

My prediction I'd something has come up that preventing the natural flow of conversation - I don't think it's you at all! My money would be either studies or family.

I think you're trying to cheer me up Duchess I'm too busy sulking haha. And avoiding the gym actually... I haven't been in over a month because of uni work and I'm dreading it a bit!

Actually, Prof that's not really what I meant to ask. I've been away from the magic and complexities of the dating game for a long while now but I do think we can put too much pressure on the "that's how it should be" way of dating iyswim? Can't you meet up for coffee during the day? Make things more real?

What do you want Prof, never mind what he wants. Do you still want something to happen with him or has this put you off?

I think Muddle that perhaps the only thing putting Prof off is his seeming lack of enthusiasm. She'd be raring to go if he gave her an amber light at least. He was all about green lights before! And may well still be if he came out of his shell a bit!

I would still want something to happen yes, but it doesn't seem like he's up for it. If someone asks to meet up on a certain date and you aren't available but want to see them you suggest times you are available, he didn't he just said he was away. No mention of, I'm free Wednesday before I go or we will meet up when I'm back.

I do see what you mean This, it just feels a bit like I've tried a couple of times and he isn't making an effort himself. He sends nice complimentary messages but seemingly has no desire to see me anytime soon!

Yes you're spot on This, the green light was VERY much on when he told me. But now I'm stuck on amber as he isn't allowing things to move forwards at all.

These men are like buses, extremely disappointing buses. You wait ages for one and two come along at once!
Infact I wasn't even waiting for one to begin with haha.

Forgive me for asking a REALLY politically incorrect question here but are you sure he's straight? Please don't get angry with me for asking!

Prof...how about you ring him and ask him if you are wasting your time...my guess is he will want you to organise it...at least you'll know one way or the other...

Another question to kick start Monday; what about the other guy who likes you? Do you like him?

I'd be tempted to say, off the cuff today, follow Sweeney's advice and call him. Don't waste time faffing. He's shown you interest; now what?

I once wondered if he was gay purely because he's so stylish, is that bad to admit? But he told me he finds me so attractive etc, so I'd assume he isn't! I know he's slept with women before based on something they were on about as a group.

I wouldn't dare ring him Sweeney over a sensitive issue haha. It would probably feel off to him too as we were brought up in the generation of texting and instant messaging we are all cowards.

The other guy is very nice This, I wouldn't say I'm physically attracted to him but he's extremely kind and sweet. I'd go on a date with him most definitely, but I don't have a strong attraction to him currently but that isn't the be all and end all of course!

I'm not for a minute wishing to conclude he's gay prof; I dont know him obviously. I was accosted in Paris by a stunning Moroccan guy who owned a jazz/salsa café in Belgium a few years ago. We would do all night nightclubbing etc and slept together which was disappointing. I found out from an ex girlfriend of his he was gay but living a lie iyswim. He loved attractive girls and slept with them....

BUT I'M JUST SAYING.... Please, I don't want to jump to conclusions here.

How interesting! I wonder if it was just due to pressure from other people or whether he himself was just in denial.

I'm tempted to message him and just ask what his intentions are, I really can't be bothered with all the waiting! There's a chance I'll see him again but it's a fairly slim chance so I don't really mind, I won't feel embarrassed.

I think he was from a well to do Moroccan family with expectations for their son, Prof. Forget my foolish notion. I hope I haven't offended you?

Yes please just text or call him. You may very well get a lovely surprise! And then we can all get back to being super happy for you.

You haven't offended me in the slightest This I'm pretty much unoffendable, apparently that isn't a real word but I'm going to use it anyway haha.

How should I word it to do you think? I'm terrible with words as I've proven many times on this thread

Going to aim to send it now before I go in the gym so I can switch off!

In that case prof...text him...ask him if he really is interested ...at least you'll know...or...we can run to another 1000 texts before Thursday when its this's turn lol ...u stuill up for Thursday this

I'd go with Sweeney's suggestion, Prof. Keep it simple and direct. Nothing to lose as you might not see him again. Which has been, incidentally, one of the things holding me back until now as I was very attached to the quality of service at the garage where B works and was aware I'd be seeing him again if/when he turned me down.

"Graphics man, I hope you don't mind me asking but are you really interested in me?"

I can't word it right!

Good morning Graphics Man. Because life is too short I just need to know if you are really interested in us meeting up? I hope you are well and happy.

I sent it and said "fuck it" as I clicked it my finger was hovering over the send button for ages debating whether to or not.

Pardon my French and what not

Yay!!!

Well done Prof!

And now you can go to the gym and we will ALL be awaiting with bated breath...

Oh shit...that's me getting no work done as I'll be checking for updates