I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

I'm back, sorry for disappearing I had to take DS for a new car seat and had plenty of errands to run afterwards.

PG I really really hope you're right and that its down to inexperience and he's wanting to wait a bit. He did stress how nervous I make him so that could be a part of it, maybe he's not used to feeling this way?
I hope it isn't for any other reason.
He texts quite nicely but only 1 message per day really, which is fine but that on top of not sorting a day out makes me a little unsure.
Please be inexperience and nerves

Sweeney - I hope I haven't scared him too much it's my stunning good looks, it simply can't be helped Haha!! I wish.

This - your autocorrect has soon caught on then! fingers crossed for clueless! I think I'm overly cautious and impatient as I want the disappointment over and done with if it is to come.
One good thing is that I don't feel intensely involved like I did with tutor man, but still hopeful as graphics man is so lovely and very different to my usual type which I think is a good thing.

PussyCat - are you in any kind of relationship with him? Or is it purely just friends with benefits?
It sounds like a nice arrangement especially as he was a friend before so you'd already developed a friendship before taking things further

Well yes we are partners in a way - our finances are separate, our households are separate, we eat together and stay over with each other about twice a week, except when he goes travelling, we holiday and go to each other's family do's, we stayed up till 4am together watching the referendum. I am v lucky and v happy...the only dread our gradual aging...

Prof I am sadly too old to have any relevant input re the meta-meaning of text frequency, as I am of an age where the procedure was (6th form age) - you hoped he'd ask for your (landline) number (no mobiles), then if he did, you hoped he'd ring you. Then a horrible period of fading hope... Or, at university, my procedure was to get drunk and pounce as was completely inept and naive in my late teens and 20's.

I can assure you TheSilveryPussCat that your presence here has made me feel more supported and understood than mocked. How kind and thoughtful you are. I'm glad you popped onto our thread, thank you.

I'm 47 and had a very full life relationship wise before getting married at 35. Like you, after 12 years of marriage and a horrendous breakup, I did not for a second imagine feeling this way again. My immediate need to protect myself and my children from my future ex husband supressed any ability to desire.

Or so I thought.

And now I am battling with myself. My head says "he's too young, be sensible" whilst my heart and body are clamouring the the opposite. It's very unsettling and quite debilitating. I can see he's attracted and I can see that like me he's afraid and protecting himself and so we take one step forward and two steps back. But that tension must be mutual, surely. I'm a client, going through a divorce and older. If anyone makes a move it's going to have to be me.

I am scared of reaching out but I'm going to have to, if it isn't too late.

Thank you for sharing your story. I really appreciate it. Like you I absolutely don't want a proper relationship. But a connection with him, yes.

Ah, I misunderstood, TheSilveryPussCat, you DO have a relationship. Well done!

Whereas bring sensible is often a reassuring lifesaver I get so fed up of not allowing my heart to sing out. What is it with this fear of revealing my feelings?

I can't help but wonder if boss's wife knows something's up. Woman's intuition in a man's world and all that. When I mentioned the mosquitoes, which have invaded our home yesterday, and she responded by saying "Benoit was saying exactly the same thing today". Call me ridiculous but there's some subliminal message there, no? Funnier still was MY subliminal response; "they're definitely persistant, that's for sure!"

It sounds like a very nice set up PussyCat how lovely! It's a nice middle ground.

I have a small but quite lovely update, he'd asked how old my son is and said how cute he is because he saw him at the exhibition. And I said that I think he's rather nice but he's mine so I'm bound to, and he put that rather nice is an understatement and that he's absolutely beautiful just like his mum. From certain men I'd find the things he says a bit over the top and maybe sleazy but he's such a sweet man that his soppy comments make me swoon

This! I love the persistent comment. I hope she was giggling to herself afterwards, in a nice way. It certainly sounds like she has an inkling, like I've mentioned previously, I think sometimes it can be quite obvious how two people feel when you're observing them. Where the two people seem to doubt the signals they're seeing, so it's quite possible that she knows! hopefully she'll give him a nudge for you haha!

What a wonderfully sweet comment from Graphics Man Prof! Yay! I'm going for the option he thinks he's onto something so wonderful he doesn't want to mess it up. That's why he's treading cautiously.

So happy for you!

Maybe I'm just imaging it, Prof, but that remark together with when I called up to speak to him a fortnight ago and she answered (I can't recall the exact words) "I'm sure he'll speak to you". The question is what does she make of it?

Yes! I remember you saying that's what she had said. I suppose only you could have an idea of what she thinks, how does she treat you? If she's very warm and genuinely friendly then I'd assume she's supportive of it if she is a bit short and sarcastic sounding or overly kind to the point where it's false then maybe not. From what you've said it sounds like she's friendly and happy about it, but only you'll be able to pick up the vibes

His message has really put a smile on my face, especially with it being a comment towards my son. It hopefully shows he doesn't see him as a problem which can be a worry for me as I know not everyone is keen to be involved with someone who has a child.

My fingers are tightly crossed that you're right and he's treading lightly eek!

I'm certain he is Prof! Absolutely certain.

Boss's wife is always kind and friendly.

Wahoo! I'd say she either can just see there's something between you or they've spoken about you how nice!!

Thanks This I'm less moody now, men make me feel like an absolute child. I'd like to think I'm quite a level headed person until feelings are involved then I'm a grumpy teenager allover again

I think we are all similar. The heart has an unsettling way of dictating our moods. Plus , I raised my eldest daughter alone when she was your son's age and any man who complimented her won a few gold stars.

Re: the boss's wife, I just assume she's being commercially minded when she's being nice. She's got a feisty streak but is quite maternal too. I cannot see why she wouldn't like me as a human being as I'm not a pain. Plus she thought I was moving over to England too. Or at least intending to which was true at some point.

After the Brexit I'm more certain still about staying put.

I cannot imagine in which world she would approve of an older client sleeping, sorry, going out with her treasured employee. Unless she's desperate to see him with a skip in his step again!

They might be friends themselves, so she might be enjoying watching it pan out. Who doesn't love to see two people who are clearly besotted?

Yes, complimenting someone's children is always going to be a winner! I find that some men barely acknowledge his existence and don't mention him, those men never end up being my type for various other reasons alongside that. But to have someone want to talk about him and say something nice makes a lovely change!

I'm feeling good he's reassured me, but of course I'm still trapped on the rollercoaster haha.

Silvery that sounds like a perfect set up, that's exactly what I would like.

Prof I am positive he is just being cautious, having wanted it for so long he doesn't want to fall at the last hurdle.

This I agree with Prof, I love seeing a romance blossom slowing between two people. My lovely assistant at work has recently started seeing someone she liked for a long time who I was sure liked her too, I have loved watching it all unfold. I'm sure it's the same for the garage boss.

How are you Muddlewitch?

Thank you Muddle, I do hope you're right!

Prof...I'm in agreeance with muddle..he's,just shy...

Good evening Sweeney, how's things?
I think you lot are right, as usual
I think because he's so confident amongst his friends, I forget that it's a completely different ball game to be confident with someone you like.

Are you feeling a lot more upbeat and hopeful Prof? You have every reason to be. I think this man is treating a relationship with you like a cut crystal glass. You are precious and beautiful but he's almost afraid of dropping and breaking you. Don't laugh, but when I used to buy a pair of beautiful shoes I'd immediately put them away and take them out occasionally to admire them only. I just couldn't wear them for a good few days as I didn't want to get them dirty and scuffed.

Do you see the analogy?

Also, if he's not had a proper girlfriend - have I got that right? - he might need a little guidance here.

What does everyone else think?

Prof.. .all we need is,to get this sorted.
..sounds,like u ok.. and this I will sort.. .lets have a party x

A beautiful post, This. That's definitely not a daft thing to do, I would never laugh as I do it with things all of the time
I want so badly for you to be right, he's never even flirted with me or been suggestive and is such a genuinely nice person as far as I can see.

It would be great if something happened between us, I suppose all we can do is wait and see

I love being able to endlessly talk it over with you lot, it helps so much. Thank you!

I'm on the countdown for Thursday for This

Hello This I'm fine thank you, it's been stormy here this afternoon so the DC and I have spent much of it snuggled up watching movies which has been lovely after a long week. How are your children? I don't know what term times are like in France, do they break for the summer soon?