I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

I understand Prof but the guy is away so concentrating perhaps on being away iyswim.

Have you seen this link before:

Yeah maybe, he isn't going for just over a week if that counts it's just it could be another 3 weeks until we go out for the first time which is a bit naff! You'd think he'd want to see me before he goes if he's that bothered?

Why three weeks Prof?

I don't understand these people, Prof. All wowed out and not doing anything about it.

I don't understand either but This and me are the passionate types. If this guy liked you but didn't approach you for TWO yrs it does says something about him either lacking confidence (and starting a relationship is a big thing) or that he is more of a thinker than a do-er, and very laid-back. BUT once you do start dating he may well speed up a lot, so give it a chance! especially as he seems genuine. I think he's just naive and inexperienced - what's a week or two after two yrs? But tbh you don't know him well so do watch out that he's not a fantasy-land type of person! I do fond it stange that he's not suggesting to see you before he goes away, maybe he still will. I think he probably isn't sure how to handle it all as he didn't haev a GF before. Maybe you could try to suggest to meet before he goes and see what he says - but depends how patient you are.

Unfortunately this...us blokes cant see what's right in front of us...my guess is and I'm normally so fucking wrong is that he would rather have something to look forward to after being away than pine after prof realising how much he will miss her after a date....or he just needs a fucking good kick up the Arse and pointing in the right direction ....

*I, not 'me' argh

Three weeks because he isn't going away for another week or so, then he's gone for a week and then there's finding a day where DS is at his dad's and I'm free which is a rare occurrence!

It's strange isn't it PG, I get that 2-3 weeks after 2 years is nothing, but equally after all that time if you found out they liked you too then you'd jump at a chance to see them, or I would anyway!

I can't help but wonder if he's built this picture up of me in his head and now it's reality it's not as exciting? I don't know! We spent hours talking Tuesday evening and he was still really keen after that but now it feels a bit rubbish.

Prof...I think you need to ring him...u have his number...he's prob shy and really doesn't know what he's doing...it can't hurt can it...it maybe he needs a bit of guidance from you

Hello Sweeney! So, Prof, if I understand correctly, you've both discussed when you could both manage to get together?

I don't know to be honest Sweeney, I've suggested where to go and when etc and he doesn't seem to be responding. I feel confused because he said we should meet up, but maybe he didn't mean it.

I'd feel embarrassed to ring him if it's the case that he isn't actually interested now, I'd feel a bit embarrassed to suggest anything again as I've mentioned it 2-3 times

He mentioned that we should meet up, This. So I suggested where and he said yes, so I said when and he basically said sorry I'm on holiday and didn't mention anything else.

Said DS is cute and chatted a bit about other things.

I'm baffled!

Prof I just think he's inexperienced, as you say never had a GF. To him maybe it's right to wait a week or two as he's nervous. He must be hugely nervous as he said to you he was - it's not always a good thing but hopefully he can shake it off. I don't thinbk at all that he now find you less excited - it's more likely he's nervous and worried he's not up for the job of a BF, probably thinks you expect a very high standard. So yes encourage him a bit or give him a couple of weeks as he may be a slow starter, but don't give him too much time either.
Is he communicating at least (texts etc) - in a nice way?

I'll agree with pg prof...inexperience and nerves...I think u maybe reading too much into things...like I said he may need a bit of guidance ...

Dont forget prof...you do make him nervous lol...you've prob scared the Shite out of him

I'm confused ... I realise that I am the queen if complicated-nothing-is-happeningness so feel free to laugh me down Prof! Does this prove that the road of true live never did run smooth, or whatever Shakespeare wisely said?

Hi this...Are you getting your finger out at last

Are you still there Prof? I suspect Graphics Man (my autocorrector automatically puts Man after Graphics ) is besotted and shy and a little bit clueless in the nicest possible way.

Yes Sweeney I need closure before I leave for England.

My fingers will be xed for you this...don't bottle it come Thursday lol...

Go for it This! It's the uncertainty...

OTOH this cloud of ambiguity at least makes one feel thrillingly yet painfully alive IIRC .

Do you know, TheSilveryPussCat, you have hit the nail on the head. The heightened feelings I've experienced these past three months have carried me on a pink cloud, sometimes tinged with frustration. These feelings, however, are not being channeled, least of all in my work so they are becoming burdensome. I agree with you; I'm reluctant to pay the price of losing that in my search for clarity. Any advice from you would be gratefully received.

Yes, there's only so much "thrillingly yet painfully alive" a body can take

When these intense feelings interfere more than enhance life, TheSilveryPussCat, then I agree.

I hope you don't think I am belittling or mocking your feelings in any way, This - far from it.

My recent love life: I divorced 5 years ago, aged 59. The marriage had killed my libido stone dead, and I was happy to contemplate celibacy for the rest of my life. Some little while after gaining my freedom, a longterm friend declared himself - well, suggested we kiss! I thought it would jeapardise our friendship, plus not fair the lack of libido, and actually I didn't think I fancied him physically. Then he went on holiday for 2 weeks, and I couldn''t stop thinking about him and how lovely it would be to wake up next to him, at least .

When he got back, I said this to him - I couldn't not! Staring at the floor and speaking v v quickly so I would get it out before I could change my mind. And then we kissed and it turned out I did fancy him, and he rekindled my libido and reconnected me with my own body

We'd drive each other mad if we lived together. But we are v loving friends w benefits :)

*all except the part about not fancying him physically, which was already changing!