Telling someone their partner has cheated

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I need to tell someone their partner has cheated. The only way I can do this is via Facebook. I have screenshots of messages and sexting. I just don't know how to construct a message, I want this person to see who this man truly is. Any help on how to write this? Tia

I've been in this situation but I was the woman who received the message to say my partner was cheating.

Yes it hurt and was upsetting to read but I never blamed the other woman, she was just as much a victim of his lies as I was.

I am so, so glad she told me. The thought of having been with someone who had affairs behind my back sickens me.

The woman absolutely needs to know.

Break it to her gently but do tell her

Iwuddarryl's post

This ^^

I don't get this at all.
You had unprotected sex (why?) with a man in his 40s. He has children but is not with their mother.
He is having sex (no idea about protection) with another woman, similar age.
You "need to expose" this?
It really sounds as if you want to break them up, for your own reasons. Are they altruistic? Only you can answer that.

Yes tell then work out why you'd let someone shag you without protection.

My guess your only telling her because you shagged him, he's not interested and your pissed off.

I'd want to know though.

Why haven't you sent the message yet? I don't understand why you're sitting on this information. She has the right to know her oh is shagging about. Hopefully before the poor sod falls pregnant by him.

I agree with eyeful - you just need to do it.

she has the right to know, so she can make her own choices about if she wants to be with a lying cheat.

I actually don't think it really matters what the OPs motives are. like someone said earlier - if they break up, then its his fault for doing it - not the OPs fault for telling!