DH has gone missing

[HeadWrecked26]

Name changed for this as I don't want this attached to my usual name.

Long story short DH (and his friend) has gone missing and I have no idea what to do!

He went out to friends on Sunday evening around 6. He called at 9ish said he was staying out but would be home approx 10am Monday morning.
All fine as he didn't have work etc etc.
I had a message from his friend st around 2pm Monday saying that DHs phone has died and that DH is really sorry he is late but he'll be home by tea time.
Since then no one has seen or heard from DH or his friend.
I've checked the police custody suite, hospitals, as many friends that I can think of and been round to friends house but obviously no one was there.
I'm worried sick, I can't sleep, can't eat and my anxiety is only letting me think the worst has happened.

I know this is about ranty, sorry for that! I just needed to talk about how scared I am. Can anyone think of a logical explanation to where they could have got to? I need abit of hope that he's okay!

Another one here who hopes he turns up to work so you can give him a bollocking.

No one has troll hunted for at least 2 hours and all the recent posts have been supportive. I don't think we need a warning.

Can people just stop wildly speculating and just hold the op's hand for gods sake. Op hope you hear something very soon xx

Been watching this post all morning. Really hope he turns up at work safe and sound. Please keep us posted. Have the police been around to mate's place yet? Sending positive thoughts your way.

Tbh I think the only answer here can be that the man is an arsehole who has been up to no good, be that drugs, alcohol, a bender, trip to France and the list is endless.

Bearing in mind that this is a man whose partner wasn't concerned when he didn't come back after 24 hours because he's done this before. So hardly the example of a loving caring husband with his family at the forefront of his thoughts.

I think the OP possibly stalled on informing the police etc because she knows deep down that the chances of something terrible having happened to him are 0, and that, based on his previous form of staying out all night etc is off doing what he wants to do and will come back when he feels like it.

My bet would be that the friend is covering for him somehow, and that perhaps the friend doesn't even know where he is or isn't even with him.

I hope he's found soon, but when he is, I hope the OP realises that she can do better than this waste of space.

Wild speculation about carbon monoxide poisoning could save his life

X post with wannabe. And I do agree with your analysis of why its unlikely to be carbon monoxide.

I must say I agree with Wannabe, mainly because of the message at 2 pm. The other option is that he could be a closet gay

Hope you're OK op and you hear something soon.

My thoughts exactly Wannabe

And despite saying the OP saying he 'works hard' so she doesn't mind if he sometimes goes out and stays out all night, I'd say a man who is on a zero hours contract and hasn't been scheduled to work so far this week until today, with an 18 month old baby to look after, is not a man has his priorities quite straight if he thinks regular all night benders are a priority.

I wouldn't be surprised if he turns up for work as he would know he was free until today

He will turn up, I'm sure if that but when he does you two need to have a serious chat. Handholding OP. What an inconsiderate arse.

Missing for four days is astounding. The police should really be all over this - if you're going to go on a four day bender you come up with a better excuse than 'I'll be back in the morning' (which means people will be sent to look for you, you'll waste money, time, be in trouble with the police for said time-wasting and will likely lose your wife and child.) To be out of contact for so long suggests injury. However, if he does stroll on in and pretend everything's OK, it's not. It's really not.

There was a woman went missing at Parklife festival - literally, the only 'missing'ness was that she was supposed to go home Saturday night and didn't, and she wasn't replying to texts. The police went into overdrive - they walked around the site with posters, had the helicopter out, loads all over the local and national media. She was found on Sunday perfectly safe and well. All she'd done is stayed out somewhere else and not checked her phone, but they took it very seriously. 4 days they should really be mobilising to look for bodies - and be ready for some serious bollockings if they're found in the pub.

"The other option is that he could be a closet gay."

What? 'A closet gay' because he's gone missing for 4 days? Is this common behaviour in the gay community? What an odd thing to say.

Whatever it is - its very shot and unfair situation on the OP.

If this was me I'd be calling his work today. Now if not already to see if he's turned up and again later to check that he still has not arrived but more do to see if he has called in sick or with another excuse/reason for being absent from work today. They may or may not tell you but you can only ask and say the police are now involved. I'd probably be asking the police to follow this up if his employer refused to say.

I'd also be checking his passport - is it there or gone? Also check other items. I know he didng take his wallet but did he take any clothes shaver etc?

What an awful situation.

A close family member of mine went missing last year, left his wallet and phone and took off in the car. No note, no explanation.

Police found him 4 days later, long story short he was having a difficult time at home and wanted to get away for a few days. He came home after about a week.

I know your mind will be racing right now. I remember feeling so horribly scared, hopefully the police are supporting you and keep posting here for support if you need. Take care.

I hope you hear something soon op.. It must be so much harder just not knowing

Thank you for all of the lovely supportive replies.
Still no sign of him. He didn't show for work but they assured me they'd let me know if he did turn up or call.
Police have been to the friends and have been speaking to people but no sight as yet. And there's no one at the friends house. They are being very supportive so I'm grateful of that.

As to the closet gay comments, anything is possible! But I'd be happy to say that closet gay is not the issue here.
Thank you though for all the support and suggestions I appreciate them all.

You must be beside yourself OP, have the police been around to his friend's yet?

How awful. I hope you hear something soon op

Thinking of you, OP and hoping you get some positive news soon

What a nightmare Hope he turns up soon

Sorry if this has already been covered, but is his passport missing?

How terrifying for you.
Hope he turns up soon

I think at this point OP no assumptions can be made. Glad that the police are being supportive.

It's an utterly horrible situation, have you got anyone in RL who are able to support you too, family and friends? Apologies if you've already mentioned this.