Feel weird about drunken incident with BF

[FrazzledRick]

It's a bit of a weird one. Been with BF about 3 months. Its been lovely, no issues at all. We went away for a long weekend last weekend. On Saturday, we went out and got really drunk. Well, I was really drunk. He seemed less so, he doesn't really take alcohol very well and often gets sick so he doesn't drink much. I'm making it sound like I'm an alcoholic, I'm not, I was just very drunk this night.

After we had gone to bed and fallen asleep he got up to go to the bathroom in hotel room to be sick. I remember coming round and hearing him. I know I should have got up to see if he was OK but I must have still been pretty drunk and as soon as I registered what was going on, I fell back asleep again. I did this a couple of times.

I'm not sure how long it was until he came back to bed, but I woke up again to him lying behind me talking at me, he was repeating "I know you're awake" and calling me a "bitch" and a "cunt" for not getting up to look after him. I felt really weird and pretended to be still asleep.

The next morning was like nothing had happened. He told me he'd got up to be sick and said "you were still asleep though" and I said "yeah, sorry I didn't hear anything."

I can't stop feeling weird about it. What went on there. Was it just alcohol? I actually don't know why I didn't get up to help him. I feel disturbed about his reaction though.

[RunRabbitRunRabbit]

You don't have to give your friends the detailed exact reasons why you split up. It's none of their business. Also, it implies one has to have a cast iron list of acceptable incidents of wrong behaviours before you can chuck someone. This attitude is all over the place. It is damaging to help it persist.

The more vague "reasons" are the best reasons to give people "It just wasn't working for me" "I couldn't see a good future" "I wasn't happy" "It wasn't as good a match as it seemed, it was never going to last in retrospect" "It wouldn't be fair to string him along when I know in my bones he isn't the one for me" "There's no big reason, he didn't cheat or anything, it's just that the chemistry wasn't there for me. I hope he finds the right girl for him."

[GarlicSteak]

I avoided post-mortems of Ill-Advised Marriage Number Two with "We just weren't compatible. He needs a more obedient wife." The first part we had agreed on - the second shut people up

[GarlicSteak]

It does rather sound like "handmaiden friend" wants to be his next victim. Good luck to her, eh?

[ChocolateChangesEverything]

I like that garlicsteak I may borrow it.

[BeautifulMaudOHara]

Well done OP, what a good ending to a thread

[UnGoogleable]

You could adapt Garlic's response and say:

"We just weren't compatible - I don't like being called a Bitch and a Cunt"

THAT will shut them up!