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Brave Babes Battle Bus

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Halleberry · 29/05/2016 13:25

New thread girlies as the other was about to run out ... Hope you all find this one xxx

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babyjane1 · 12/06/2016 09:33

Hi faire, yes manic depression is now known as bipolar. mouse so well done in the race and to your lovely dd ofcourse. I had no idea you had bipolar too, so sorry if it's the case, it's a deeply unpleasant and challenging condition, big hugs xxx

lookingforhope · 12/06/2016 09:39

Hi all. Sat in a car wash place catching up while 3 gorgeous hunky Romanian guys valet my car. Worth the price for the view alone as well as a car that is no longer caked in mud outside and smelling of sweaty athletes (ds and pal) spilled coffee and dropped sandwiches. They have been looking quizzical as I've been snorting with laughter at your underwear / cellulite / rowie banter (no idea what a rowie is btw).

Am heading off for 3 weeks away at work after this. It was all very stressed and tense when I left on Friday (getting home at almost 10.00pm and had to have large drink on train which I rarely ever do these days) and rows rumbling on via email all Saturday as I got haircut, went dress shopping for day 1, took ds to county championships and cooked dinners for the freezer. Wry I can only sympathise with your position as it is horrible working in a bad atmosphere and I am quite peripheral to some of the tensions here.

I'll try to pop in when I can ... Worried about the drinking culture in evenings and losing control. I am rubbish around free wine, so may drop in at odd hours asking for cheerleaders / support. Worried too about 12 hour days back to back, leaving family to cope (I am their organiser and commander, how will my 16 and 12 year old infants find socks when they are hidden in plain sight where I left them in sock drawers) and then beckoning unemployment when contract ends. Eek!

Love to all of you lot anyway and sorry I'll be in and out over next few weeks.

Mouse huge hugs to you. Flowers I hope you get your meds sorted and life improves soon . Big squeeze to Nemo too, how is the little man?

dementedma · 12/06/2016 09:40

Hi all. Good to see some of the oldies checking in, and wry you do make me laugh!
Ok, diet starts today . I NEED to be AF, I need to lose the gut and the chins and I need to feel better about myself.
However, I want to low carb and have already done the shopping which is mostly carby, cheap stuff to fill people up as am broke! So have loads of pasta, potatoes, noodles in. Bugger!

lookingforhope · 12/06/2016 09:44

Ps just got car back. They had pointedly turned down Radio 4 on the radio, and offered me a free air freshener. Oh dear. I know my vibe is no longer gorgeous babe, didn't realise it was The Lady in the Van. They have also picked up all the safety pins and put them in a pile near the gearstick. They are for pinning race numbers on athletes, I don't hold my clothes together with them! Honestly!!!! Blush

lookingforhope · 12/06/2016 09:45

(waves to Ma)

Fairenuff · 12/06/2016 09:55

Ma I want to start today too. It's ok to eat carbs if you keep the portion small. Can you bulk it out with veg or salad?

Tuna is great to have with pasta or jacket potato. I sometimes have half a potato (which is only 1 calorie per gram if baked without butter) and lots of tuna and salad.

Hope I had my car valeted yesterday and the guy looked at it in horror Shock Blush

He said you might have to leave it with me all day Grin

I think it will do your family the world of good to try and cope without you for a few days. Maybe they will appreciate how much you do for them. (And maybe they will find they can managed after all and you can stop having to do it all). Maybe.

Good idea to keep checking in with us, we can all help each other this week Smile

Pinkballetflats · 12/06/2016 09:57

Morning folks

Well done on the race, Mouse!

Elba - a racing heart and really bad sweats does not sound good. I can imagine it was frightening. Please look after yourself - is AF under medical supervision a possibility for you?

Wry - you do make me laugh. 20 pairs of apricot silk knickers - perhaps refashion them into a parachute? 😄

dementedma · 12/06/2016 09:59

Dcs call dh's car the Mingmobile. It's disgusting!
Waves to hope. Good luck with the expo this week!

Halleberry · 12/06/2016 10:05

Dementedma - I swear by low carb and NO bread diets. Ive lost half a stone in 2 weeks because I e hardly drank anything and not ate any bread etc. This is me a whole week without any alcohol at all! Im still on my meds which is gettin a but out of control but just like i reigned in my alcohol use I will do the same with these tablets. I need to cut back by one a day for a week then 2 for a week and do it real slow. Anyway I can feel the difference in my weight and it feels AMAZING and has spurred me on to keep trying even more xxx good luck to youand hi to all you amazing babes xxxx

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dementedma · 12/06/2016 10:10

Thanks Halle. I'm really going to try and will need lots of support. Well done on a whole week.

Fairenuff · 12/06/2016 10:13

Well done Halle. If you stick to it, the benefits are quite noticeable and quite quick. I always think that it can seem hard at first but once you get into the swing of it, the days just fly by and it's easy to stack up those AF days.

But of course it all comes with practice and, like anything else, habit.

Halleberry · 12/06/2016 10:38

Definitly fair. The days actually do
Fly in. I don't knw where the last week has went lol. But somehow ive made it through sober and I feel great for it. The days just keep
Mounting and im going for 2 whole weeks now and I bet this week
Flies in Aswell and hopefully by next Sunday I will have dropped another few pounds which will get me to about 11 n half stone and from there im looking to get down to 10 so a stone and a half Aswell pretty easy really. Demented I swear by those wee packets of mixed fruits you can get from super markets. Like a mix of some apple grape and melon. When u feel the hunger nibble
On them and it distracts you. I wish Id done this a long time ago. Ok so im messing with my body with all these meds and im not proud of it but I can only cope with one battle at a time. I do worry my heart will give up but I think when ur time is up, it's up xxx

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dementedma · 12/06/2016 11:57

Will do. Breakfast has been left over cooked chicken and a hard boiled egg. Craving some toast already though. This is going to be tough.

Halleberry · 12/06/2016 12:07

I smoke and drink loads of tea and coffee and that helps stem my appetite lol. Im not suggesting you take up smoking im just saying I think that's what helps me when I'm absolutely starving. Coffee and a fag lol xxx

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babyjane1 · 12/06/2016 12:59

Hi all,

I'm still laughing at wry's undergarments story, I have a few myself.

When Dd2 was 2 she took all my underwear from my drawer which was in a unit near the window and put them out if the window (small gap) and as I live in the main road of the village, it was very very embarrassing. What's worse is that id also left my house keys in My car so dh has accidentally locked me in. Most of my grey rip ridden pants took several seconds to land due to their parachute like similarities!!!

I also go for spray tans and leave wearing paper pants and no bra to avoid staining so the last time I got the car valeted the poor lad found an array of Boulder holders and knickers in my boot. What the hell does this say about me. A middle age slapper, chance would be a fine thing!!!!

Also wanted to add that I think one of the major problems we encounter giving up booze is the large void of space and mental energy it leaves. It is initially very unsettling but becomes liberating if you can hang tight. I truly believe that most of us who abuse alcohol have something we're trying to hide from so time to reflect is a scary thing but soon that time that frightens us becomes filled with better things, reading, candle lit baths, the ability to listen to people and to be interested in what they say. I've started a Thursday night Zumba class and it's so much fun and I've met a whole load of new, fabulous people!!!

If you can get past the idea that instead of losing something that meant so much to you, you can find other things that matter more. Embarking on a project like losing weight and doing excercise or self improvement of any sort is a brilliant distraction and one that we all seem to be focussing on. I've got 4 weeks to try and lose as much weight as safely possible so you successful slimmers out there, I'd love your advice??? Pretty please, I'll try anything....

Anyway ciao for now, love you guys xxxx

Halleberry · 12/06/2016 13:09

Im
Not even worried aboutu alcohol
Intake now. I have no craving or want for it at all. And ive noticed changes really quick. But I still
Fill that void with pills. Nobody else knows about it. Im not "high"
Just nice and calm and relaxed. I don't know how am gonna deal without them.

Babyjane - do a very low carb diet and
No bread. Loads
Of skinless chicken and fish, with salad, and fruit to snack on. Force yourself through IT for 4 weeks and I promise
You will
See a big difference xxx

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Fairenuff · 12/06/2016 14:29

I agree with the chicken/fish/salad/veg combo. If you're only doing low carb (rather than none at all) wholegrain rice and cereals are ok too. Just watch portion sizes.

I try not to snack and remind myself that feeling hungry is a normal, natural feeling after four hours or so without eating. I'm amazed at how little I really need to eat. I got myself a portion plate to get me started and it did really help.

Halle I think you might need to ask your gp to help you wean off the pills. You can do it, you're doing so well and you just need a bit of support to get you off them.

Lalaladida · 12/06/2016 16:29

halle I agree with fair. My sister went to rehab for benzodiazepines and alcohol, and said the fall out from the benzos was harder than alcohol. Although alcohol withdrawal can kill you, obviously. Be careful my love.

Not having a bad day here, been riding my horse and then out for a long dog walk. Puppy shows no signs of being worn out though.

Drunk far too much this weekend, felt rough this morning, and just had to have a glass of wine to feel human again. Not good eh?

Halleberry · 12/06/2016 16:57

How early did you have the glass
Of wine hun xx

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Lalaladida · 12/06/2016 17:06

About 4 when I posted. Being feeling shit all day, after my horse ride and my dog walk. Bad eh?

Lalaladida · 12/06/2016 17:07

Opps my bad, at about 4.20....

Lalaladida · 12/06/2016 17:07

I am so sick and tired of myself.

dementedma · 12/06/2016 17:24

Have had a glass here too Lala, epic fail on day 1.
Have done exercises and eaten low carb, but the booze is beyond me.

Halleberry · 12/06/2016 17:27

4 in the afternoon isn't bad. I thought you meant early early this morning and I would have said that's not a good sign. I woke
Up a few times so rough ive had a beer at 8:30am (cringe) never again xxx

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Halleberry · 12/06/2016 17:28

Dementedma the booze will not help your weight loss hun xxx

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