Handholding please

[Karenthetoadwhisperer]

I am so angry and upset quietly of course, as DS is right in the middle of his GCSE's. I am keeping this completely to myself and I cannot even talk to anybody, because I don't want him to notice.

My Ex (Toad, to those who remember ...) is behaving true to form and I have to keep batting him away, anything will do as an excuse to pester us, send endless emails, ask to come over, ask to see the children, ask to check if the house is properly maintained - an ongoing string of requests.
The children and I live in the family home from which he was evicted in 2013. He has been living in a hotel ever since, hoping to come back.
The children are not keen on him, but they see him every now and then to keep in touch and to shut him up. Needless to say, I am not keen on Toad either.

I work full time, long hours and I also have a long commute. I am the only provider for the children, as of course Toad is not paying maintenance, as he is a business owner and therefore difficult to assess.

Blocking him is not an option, as I have to be available for appointments regarding the sale of the house and to make arrangements with the children.

There is just no shutting him up. Nothing works. I just about manage to keep him away threatening to call the police if he turns up unannounced or harasses the children.

Contact with the children is difficult to arrange anyway, as Toad is of course banned from driving and requests to be picked up to see the children in our home - I refuse now.

We just can't get rid of him.

I have had such a week and a small disagreement with DS when I said I was fed up with my family bragging non stop on the family photo streams. Of course they don't post to annoy me, but I still feel like a loser when I look at their photos and ours.

Toad coming round at 14:00 to polish his car and have someone take it to his hotel.

OP I can offer no help at all but just positive wishes.
I haven't seen your other threads.
What attracted you to Mr Toad in the first place ? You must have loved him once?
How does it get so bad that a man won't pay something towards his chdren's upbringing?

In short - Mr Toad is Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, holly mostly Mr Hyde.

He doesn't want us to have a good time. He always finds some way of blaming me for everything he does and happens to him. In his mind, it's my fault that he doesn't pay towards the children's upbringing, because I refuse to live with him. If I 'saw sense and stopped this nonsense' ad he describes it, we could all have a 'wonderful' life, according to him. He is tireless in his efforts to make my life hell until I give in and come back to him. He is very clever. He knows how to play the game to avoid getting arrested because he is oh so reasonable and I am a hysterical wreck. Our local police hate him with a vengeance.

How bloody e Haiti g for you
Okay what I would do do is what the police have asked you to do.
Pass on every single piece of contact, not sure whether or not to do it after each individual contact or at the end of the day report, probably after each one, because

1. Police can then see exactly what he is doing and

2 you don't need to deal with him

Stop replying to anything
Only talk to estate agents in person
Get the courts to force a sale
Disengage

Thank fuck his car is going, one less 'reason' in his head to visit your home
Get a so,I iron to inform him that contact is no longer to be held at your home and call the police every time he turns up

The police are on your side here

So,Iron = solicitor