In my 50's, dating somebody with young children

[RubyRedandWilson]

I have been seeing somebody, who I met online, for 3 months. I've fallen for him big tme. I'm 55 and have two grown up children, one of whom has an 11 year old daughter.

I knew this man had children younger than my children but he never said their actual ages - if I asked he would change the subject.

I finally got him to tell me their ages as it was quite obvious he was hiding something.

They are 6 and 2.

I'll admit, I was surprised. This man is the same age as me so I wasn't really expecting him to have children quite so young.

It also turns out he is a full time dad and every time we met, they were with their nanny (childcare nanny).

The childrens mum is not in the picture.

I'm now questioning the relationship. I am head over heels in love with this man, he has made me so happy in the 3 months we have been together, I don't want to give him up but I'm not sure I want to be "mum" to such young children at my time of life. My granddaughter is older than they are.

Great post Sandy.

I agree with Sandy. When a woman says ''he's not around'' it's the most likely scenario, he absolved himself of the responsibility and there's not a damn thing anybody can do to make him take it back. There are exceptions of course but women do not generally just walk away, so if you've been dating a man for three months and that's all he can offer up by way of explanation........ I'd wonder if she was under the patio!

I'd bet my mortgage that she is still in their lives. And the op's BF's life, and bed

Run.

No way. I'm 42 and dating and I couldn't cope with a 2 year old.

Where the hell is the OP?

Yes i wouldnt mind an update either.

And the fact that hes in his 50s and has been evasive about their ages would make me think he may have had a relationship with a much younger woman who couuldnt handle being a parent

Why? Because younger mothers are more likely to bail (iyho)??!

If he's a married man, he's not a very practised lothario, is he?

Dacre i was surmising about THIS situation. Im not saying its more likely or that it happens all the time.

There is a bloke in our town who it did happen too. Hes mid 60s His kids are 12 and 15

Dacre i was surmising about THIS situation. Im not saying its more likely or that it happens all the time.

Oh no sorry, I didn't mean you were. I was just amused by how bad at this he is, if he is a MM

I think I'll have to stop using the MN phone app - I can't seem to post clearly when I multitask

No probs Dacre.

Update OP?