Had a long chat with DP the other night about wanting to set out some plans for this year. New babies, holidays, new homes, marriage etc etc. We've been together 7.5 years and have a ds of 2 but the last year or so just seemed to have slid by with very little event and I wanted to change that. Everything was fine except the marriage bit. He always said he wanted to do it and it was just a matter of timing. He's finally admitted that he doesn't want to get married and that it's not personal but he just doesn't see the point of it all. If he did it, he'd jsut be doing it for me and our families. Now I wouldn't want him to marry me just for that reason and I'm glad he's finally being honest but I can't help feeling a bit disappointed that he doesn't feel that same burst of romanticness and commitment for me re the marriage thing that I feel for him. I also now feel a bit uncertain about the boring legal security bit. Plus there's the whole different name from my kids bit which is something I had to put up with when I was little. I don't know, I just always pictured us as a mr and mrs and staring into each others eyes saying I do. I never wanted a big wedding there's just something about committing to someone for the rest of your life in that legal fashion that says something to me and although I'd realised over the past few years it wasn't going to happen I guess I'd always hoped deep down a little more than I thought. Just a bit sad that's all