straw poll - are you divorced/separated from yr dcs father and are you single?

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just reading the happy after divorce thread and it struck me how many people there had separated/divorced and were now in relationships.

in my circle of friends (late 40s) there are 6 of us who have split from our dcs fathers but we are all still single.in some cases for over 10 years.

are we unusual in that? be interesting to find out.

thanks.

26 been single 5 months. Ex left me 32 weeks pregnant (with 2 year old aswell) for ow! After 4 years together and I hate being a single mum!

Separated from husband, had a baby with new boyfriend, separated from boyfriend and am now back with husband.

Fair enough cocoa. I read it differently but OP doesn't seem to mind.

Bitching. That's interesting. I often wonder what really happened with mine. Looking back there were dodgy signs occasionally but by and large he was supportive for a long time in many ways. Then he changed and his life became a car crash. I thought at the time that he drank and stayed out and spoke to me so rudely because he was unhappy with me and family life. I assumed he wanted out and gave him many opportunities to go, even paying him to leave at one point. Yet when he lost all that he seemed to spiral into a tailspin panic and ultimately died because it sent him over the edge. He'd spent a year apparently telling people how unhappy I had made him, how stressful and difficult his kids were and how much he felt his job had no meaning! Then they were taken away he couldn't handle it. I think it was in part because he was embarrassed, that everyone would know that his good guy image had gone and he would be a single dad without his status job. So weird as he had stopped taking the job seriously at all, even conjuring up fake projects so he and ow could get pissed and shag during the day.

Anyway, sorry for the side track!

:) its so interesting to read all these experiences - thank you