DP and I just broke up.

[HermioneJeanGranger]

He lied to me for our entire relationship.
He has two children he lied to me about. He told me they were step-kids but it turns out they're biologically his. He knew that.
I asked about them loads - he made up lies to cover the original lie.

We were due to get married in September.

Fuck.

He knows my plans to leave and we actually managed to discuss it quite rationally

Well that's a relief, but while I don't want to worry you I'd still advise extreme caution. Let's not forget there's clearly a LOT about this person you don't know, and I very much doubt the things you've discovered cover all of it, if that makes sense

I know. Thank you so much for being worried. I know I clearly barely know anything about him.

I can get away if I need to. My godmother is nearby but I don't want to impose her unless I have to as she's recovering from surgery. But I know I can go to her if I need to.

My parents are coming on Wednesday, so I have a few days to pack while he's at work.

I don't feel like any of those things!

I feel like I want to scream and cry and throw things. He's just detatched completely.

Just an update for anyone who is still interested:

I moved out yesterday and am back living with my parents - not ideal but I needed a clean break. Ex was playing the guilt-trip a lot so I just needed to get away.

I have a job interview in 40 minutes and the manager seems positive so I hope I get it.

Thank you to everyone who posted and gave me so much support. I really appreciate it and I wouldn't have been able to be so strong without you

Good luck with your interview!

Well done, OP. You have behaved admirably in all of this.

He didn't deserve someone as decent as you are.

Good for you. Well done

Good luck with the interview, and congrats for having moved on so quickly. Sounds like you've had a busy week

Thank you again!

My interview went really well. He just needs to check my references and all that but he's going to ring me on Monday and let me know

He's trying to guilt-trip you?! WTAF?!

Glad to hear you're away from him now, and fingers crossed about the job.

I've watched - in awe - the magnificent way you've reclaimed and rebuilt your life, Hermione. Out of his lying life, returned to your home ground, new job (i'm sure you've got it) and everything sorted out.

goddessofsmallthings was absolutely right when she said your guardian angel stepped up to clear the path for something and/or someone truly worthy of you to be revealed.

Only just seen this thread hermione - so sorry to read this. What a fuckwit. At least you found out now but that won't make it any easier in the short term. Be kind to yourself - and crossed for Monday!

Just to let you guys know, I got the job!

Hooray! Well done you!

Hurrah

Yay.

Well done you.

Congratulations 🎊 so impressed by your strength walking away, hoping that you get time to heal amongst family and friends and that in time the future holds everything you hope for.

Yayyy! Knew you'd get it! Well done Hermione. Now get on with being HAPPY again

Congratulations OP! Actually in awe of how well you have handled the situation less than a month from the breakup and you've got out and bagged yourself a job! You should be really proud

You have been so brave and have done absolutely the right thing. to your new job and a happy future, which you absolutely wouldn't have had with The Wanker.

Wow just read this thread well done hermione I remember you from other threads
You are fantastic and are getting your life back on track immediately well done!!

Ah thank you so much for all your lovely messages everyone.

I've had masses of support from friends and family which has probably been the reason I haven't had a breakdown! My head is still a bit all over the place - I'm still speaking with DP as we still have to sort out bills and things (mostly done but just need to double check accounts are closed etc.) and it's been fairly amicable which is better than I thought it would be.

Don't get me wrong, he's a fuckwit for what he did but I'm glad at least we're not ignoring each other/slagging each other off etc.

for everyone, you've been amazing :)