Desperately want a child with new partner

[NAR4]

Quick background; I have 5 children with my ex and my partner has 2 children with his ex. My youngest 3 still live at home and exs children stay 2days and nights each wk, occasionally more.

I would dearly love just 1 child with my ex. He is such a fabulous caring dad and I really feel it will complete us as a family. He thinks the idea is barking mad and we have plenty of children already. Has anyone else been in this situation and managed to persuade the other half. I know it sounds ridiculous but I feel so terribly sad that we will never share the joy of pregnancy and baby/toddler times, together.

[MarkRuffaloCrumble]

I understand how you feel OP. I have 3 DCs and my DP of 4 years has two of his own. I have always thought how lovely it would be to have one together, but actually we already have something which is a perfect blend of him and me - our relationship.

We don't need another human to cement that and actually as it stands, we get a night each week when all kids are with their other parents and we can have a night out. We are going away for a week while the DCs stay with our exes (couldn't do that with a baby between us!)

DP already feels torn, spending half his time with me and half with his DCs. He would definitely want to live here full time if there was a child of his living here, but then he would feel guilty for his other DCs that they don't get to be with him full time and I know the pain of that would cause massive repercussions - the Disney parenting of non-resident children, different styles of parenting between the 3 distinct groups of DCs (his, mine, ours) and not to mention what would happen if we split up (not being negative, just realistic; we already know this can happen!) Trying to work out how to sort access to fit in with all the other DCs would be a nightmare!