Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along.....

[venusandmars]

Our lovely mouseface usually starts these threads but I've just noticed that the previous one is almost full, so I'm facing technology and get the next one set up.

Anyone, absolutely anyone, who feels they have a problem with drink is welcome here. Whether you're trying to stop, or cut down a little, whether you've been sober for years, or even if you're too scared even to contemplate what is happening. If you think it will help you to post, or lurk, then please do.

There's often a lot of nonsense and banter, but lots of good sound advice.

And there is always lots of support and care and no judgement.

This is the link to the previous thread, if you want to read what's been going on so far The Previous Thread

And this is the link to JesusWhatNext 's original thread started 6 years ago The Original Thread

Enjoy your weekend away Elba

Enjoy your weekend away elba, just keep all the tools you've learnt ready for you to moderate and you'll have a great time!

We were only away for a few days so got back Sunday and straight back into work, nursery, normal life. had a lovely break though.

halle well done and sounds good for today!! Stocking up the af days!

Day 4 here and today I will not drink. That bloody witch comes calling every evening but I bat her away with a stick.

Haven't read back. On train back to Scotland. Meetings weremok and they will get back to me....we shall see

spanna I also had dc who did cutting. Have pm'd you x

Afternoon people. How are we all? I am most ashamed to admit that I have spent the whole day hungover. Rather epic drinking yesterday, as I had the day off to go to hospital for an appointment. Stupid me.

claret, sounds like you had a nice holiday are soldiering on with the AF, well done! Likewise halle. You are both showing strength and determination, keep it up.

elba have a great weekend away, are you going anywhere exciting? (Sorry if you have already said, but the thread has moved quite quickly...)

ma fingers crossed for a good result.

Waves to everyone else. I feel crappy.

Well made it through another day. Just got in and im shattered and dying for a cuppa and some chocolate. Be a bath then bed for me. I have taken a strong size of my meds though so feel really sleepy. A newer would probably kill
Me lol s im happy to be AF tonight xx

halle well done. Just been riding, it is a beautiful evening here. Going to go home and walk the dog. Fingers crossed for an AF evening.

Well it's nearly 10. I had the notion to drink all day. I thought I'd decided then a friend invited me to lunch which I declined but since then I argued in my head non stop - will i? Won't i? Should I? Should I not?...... I purposely took my strong pain killers cause u can't mix them with alcohol or it can actually kill you so as soon as I took them the need for alcohol went away and now it's nearly 10 I couldnt care less about it (for now) constant battle in my head about drink but anyway, another sober day even though I had to take a pill, I still didn't drink so it's a start surely x hope all you babes are ok x lala tonight looks likes beautiful night to have been riding xx

Hi all - well it's been a scorcher here and though I adore the sun I feel so disgustingly FAT I have felt uncomfortable all day. 31 days till I'm away for 3 weeks on my big event - the culmination of this year's work and a welcome 3 weeks away from WB but I will feel so fat and uncomfortable in my clothes I doubt I'll enjoy it. Help! How can I lose weight in a month? And why the hell didn't I start in January? Always procrastinating and finding excuses. Ugh. I look like a whale. And am drinking again as so stressed, which won't be helping my weight. Any super dieters out there who can advise?

Spanna thanks for the shout out and sorry to hear about your DD. I wish I could help but am sure the professionals are more qualified than me to advise. My friend in RL had a hard time last year when her eldest DD developed anorexia and nearly died. She was that bad, her heart was damaged and she was hospitalised with an NG tube for weeks. But she got the right psychiatric help and is well on the way to recovery now, looking really good and getting her old personality back. You have to persevere but I hope you get the best care for her, and I'm sure she will come out the other side. She is talking to you which shows what a great mum you are - and also that she is willing to accept help. Good luck. You are an amazing woman keeping sober for all these months. I salute you and hereby hand you the Smock of Smug

Halle, Elba well done to you babes too . In the words of Young Mr Grace from 'Are You Being Served' - you're all doing very well (you have to be over 40 to get that one so ignore me, younger babes!)

Venus, Ma, Baby, Beaches, Claret, Sober, Faire, Marry, Lala and anyone else I've missed - hope you all have a peaceful night. Off to bed now and hopefully a new start tomorrow. Somebody slap me with Barrie please!!!!

I'm signing off babes xxx love to all of you

That sounds a bit dramatic , I'm okay, I'm still drinking and can't keep up xx squid slap while k get off

I.... Not K !

Morning babes!

The sunny weather got me yesterday so I had a couple of glasses of wine but I won't let this be a slippery slope to a bottle every night until Sunday (which happens all too often). Day 1 again!

hope feeling fat is horrible and a really big downer when it comes to summer. I'm not overweight but I'm bigger than I used to be pre DD and hate it. I have a family holiday in June so would love to be 10lb lighter for that. So I'm starting a thing called whole 30 which is basically super super healthy eating and has fantastic results. Think no carbs, dairy, sugar but plenty of protein, meat, eggs veg etc. It has similarities to the Atkins I guess. It gets quick results so look it up if you want to loose a few lbs before your event!

And hi will! How are you? It doesn't matter if you're drinking, please stop by and let us know how you are.

tttthhhhhhwwaaakkkk. Therr you go. (That was Barry by the way)

Oi, I needed a slap with Barrie too

Will your bus ticket is for life so you can jump off but you are always welcome to get on again at any stop! So long for now but hope to see you again one day, drinking, moderating or sober

Claret I'll look up Whole 30 later. Thanks for responding . I have exactly 30 days so will be needing some motivation. Hopefully will keep me off the booze too

Have a good day babes x

Sorry hope in the early morning fuzz I missed that you requested a slap by Barrie! Tttttthhhhhwwwaaaccckkk there you go!

I'm hoping whole30 keeps me off the booze too...I have no idea why I find it so hard, I have felt great all week then bam, have a drink and feel like sh*t. Damn it! Anyway. One day at a time.

Happy Friday babes.

Hello, have still been reading but not posting. Think i'm not much of a poster, if that makes sense, not good with words.

Glad to read how well some of you are doing and feeling for those not doing so well. I've had the odd day off but not enough to feel like I'm getting anywhere.

Claret the whole 30 is paleo isn't it? I did paleo for a while a couple of years ago and felt a massive difference despite still drinking, it has totally changed the way i eat although more low carb rather than paleo now. If you do it without drinking, even if just not drinking during the week, i reckon you will see massive results.

Sorry for not ncing everyone, i think that is part of my not posting, don't want to just talk about myself and find it hard to keep up with everyone.

I have had 2 glasses of wine though, hence my longish post.

Did I seebeaches earlier?
And where the heck is wry?

Hi work good to hear from you! Yes whole30 is paleo, been amazed today how full I've felt on relatively little food - despite it being a fairly 'restrictive' diet there does seem to be a lot you can eat (I know that doesn't make sense!) hoping you are right about massive results!

And don't worry about posting/not posting - do what feels right and good for you. I hope you are ok, and remember any af day is a success regardless how rare

claret protein, good fats and loads of veg keeps you full and no desire to snack

Halle the need for alcohol went away, not because you took a pill but because you made the decision not to drink. You made that decision because you knew you couldn't drink but you still made the decision. That is the key to kicking the cravings. If you make the decision in the morning and refuse to give it any more head space, the 'need' to drink goes away. No pill needed

This is also why so many of us didn't drink during pregnancy and didn't find it hard to abstain. Once you know you won't drink, the craving disappears.

hope I've found that any 'diet' you can stick to works. 30 days is a long time to have a very restricted diet so I would probably factor in one day off diet for every ten on it. (This takes away the mental trigger of weekends).

I've lost 20lbs so far this year through 1) small portions 2) non processed food and 3) no snacking. These work for me and I have the odd day off as I said, about every ten days or so. It's slow but hopefully permanent loss. And I agree with Work, protein and veg as the bulk and small amounts of good fats for taste.

Have you got a slow cooker? You can chuck in a load of chicken, veg and low fat sauce for a quick and easy meal. I make my own veg soup too which is virtually calorieless.

Great to hear from you Work. Don't worry about name checking, we wouldn't want anyone to be put off posting for fear of missing someone out. There are probably hundreds of us now, impossible to keep track of everyone.

Hi all

I've been lurking for a while.

I don't know if I have a problem or not.

I know I am at 'increased risk' but how would you define an actual 'problem' with alcohol?

In times of great stress I can start drinking and my 'off' button experiences a short but this is probably around less than a dozen times a year.

I can go through brief periods of drinking 40+ units a week but in general I'd say it's closer to 25 units a week.

My ExP and his father are insisting I'm an alcoholic and are using that to try to gain traction in children's act proceedings.

I honestly don't think I have s problem - I think I could have if I didn't keep an eye out on my units (alcoholism is on both sides of my family so I know I'm likely genetically predisposed) I probably could slip into addiction (or addiction as I see it)

Do I have a problem?

Hey life, it's hard to say. Some people think that you are an alcoholic if you drink more than a bottle of wine a week, some don't define it as such unless they are sprinkling vodka on their cornflakes... Only you know the truth. I guess the appropriate definition would be to say that if you have a psychological need to drink then it needs nipping in the bud before it becomes physical.

Sorry to hear about your struggles. If you need any advice, this is the best place to be. The babes here are experts at offering support, advice and general hand holding.

Hi life and lovely lala,

life lala is spot on when saying only we know when drinking has more power in our lives than it should. I think your ex is being very very mean trying to incriminate you in this way, for what it's worth I think most "normal drinkers" probably consume what you do and as you do a bit more in times is stress, it's human nature to drink a little more when stressed and I know many many very sane, good mothers who count down to wine o'clock. I'm not belittling it, not at all but o think your ex may be using his knowledge of your family situation against you, does he drink???

If you are under the microscope it's worth knowing that being inebriated, whatever that means is now against the law if your in the house with kids but once again the family courts would be queued out if this was actually practised.

Think your ex is horrid but if you've been lurking for a while maybe your worried about yourself???

Anyhow everyone here is fabulous and we all have a backstory so we won't judge just help if we can xxx