Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along.....

[venusandmars]

Our lovely mouseface usually starts these threads but I've just noticed that the previous one is almost full, so I'm facing technology and get the next one set up.

Anyone, absolutely anyone, who feels they have a problem with drink is welcome here. Whether you're trying to stop, or cut down a little, whether you've been sober for years, or even if you're too scared even to contemplate what is happening. If you think it will help you to post, or lurk, then please do.

There's often a lot of nonsense and banter, but lots of good sound advice.

And there is always lots of support and care and no judgement.

This is the link to the previous thread, if you want to read what's been going on so far The Previous Thread

And this is the link to JesusWhatNext 's original thread started 6 years ago The Original Thread

Elba your chart did indeed show a downward trend with some spikes. That's the same as my weight loss one. I've looked for patterns in mine and can see that if I gain it's usually on a Sunday, which will be the results of snacking on Friday and Saturday so I now know that I have to be extra careful on those days.

It's easier for me because my work hours are set and I do have a lot of routine in my life because I like it that way and it's just easier for me to plan my meals and avoid triggers.

Anyway, what I was thinking was, could to do a 'mood' chart to show how you feel the next day, after some of your unwanted behaviours. I know your situation is much more complex than mine and you are doing great, I'm just thinking about things that might help you develop strategies to avoid repeating unwanted behaviour, if that makes any sense. Unwanted by you, of course, you get to decide what you're happy with and what you're not.

Chin up petal, get right back on it x

Just thought I would share a cute puppy picture... She is like a child substitute, only furrier.

Good advice there from fair

Aww is that your wee puppy? How did you get on last night lala? How much did you drink? Xx

Ps. I drank at the last baby shower I went to 😔🙈 x a few people joined me but it was of course my idea xx

I was like "hey girls since it's a celebration lets go buy some bubbly" 🙈🙈 xxx

Hi obrigada well done you. ma think about you often too my friend. Yeah I am still with my wankbadger but funnily enough deal with this much better sober than I ever did when drinking. Hope all is well with you and the family. Guess you are still with your wankbadger. Hope everyone trying to be AF has a lovely sober Sunday.

halle that is my girl. She is twelve weeks, and just had a poonami all over the floor, so I have spent the last fifteen minutes on my hands and knees clearing it up, the little sod. Had quite a lot of wine last night and some prosecco as well... not feeling too bad this morning. Aiming for AF today but the thought of this bloody baby shower is doing my head in. My other friend is ill so she can't make it, and the thought of having to socialise with a group of relative strangers terrifies me...

Is it really important that you go? Can't u make an excuse? Xx you wee pup is lovely btw xx

Thanks halle. She's just had a majorly shitty arse, so has to hose her off which she did not enjoy. Now there is shit all over my bedroom floor, and just had to change my t shirt. Ugh. The washing machine is being kept busy.

I sort of have to go, she is one of my oldest friends, and I was a witness at her wedding... But I don't really want to, as I don't really know her other friend, apart from meeting at hen do, wedding etc. Just wrapped presents. Going to ride my horse now. Will see how I feel when I get back...

So cross with little miss shit bum! Not sure I will bother having children, this puppy is rapidly putting me off! Then again, I guess it's different when it's your own child, right?

Puppies are like babies ... Infact Sometimes they can be harder x have a lovely day. Let me know how u get on and If u drink at the shower lol xxx

How are you all doing?
Been sitting out in the sun and sipping wine. Need to rein it in now as have dinner to cook for everyone.

Hello, tie me, Mouse

I'm so very sorry that I've not been around to support anyone, but I've been dealing with so much that I'll have to post in bursts.

Some of you may remember that I was involved in a hit and run in Dec last year and hospitalised for two days. I feel awful as ever since that day, a Senior Neurological Consultant performed numerous tests and diagnosed me with Fibromyalgia, a condition that is brought on by stress. My GP and other various pain management teams are currently trying to find the correct concoction of medication that stops the pain and fatigue. It's like CFS & ME all in one.

Anyway, thank you for the messages away from here, be back in a bit. Mouse xxx

What you making for dinner? Ive been in most of the day doing all housework etc so I have nothing to do tomorrow and can go to the park with bubs cause tomorro is meant to be the best day xx

Roast beef, carrots, broccoli, roast potatoes....

Ma let them cook their own dinner for once, they are all adults except ds. Mind you I will be cooking in a bit but I have had a day in the garden reading the papers and also if I don't cook its all unhealthy crap

Rural great to see you mate! 6 months AF is brilliant . I am also still with WB. At end of tether, often. He's at his vile sister's at the moment. If he hadn't dragged DS with him I'd consider strafing her house (Ma do you know anyone ??? )

I am having a crisis today as love the sun but all summer clothes too unflattering on my fat frame and have 20 people arriving at work tomorrow for presentations and tours. They will all be looking at my dinner lady arms if I wear a sleeveless dress . Though if I skip doing my roots they may look at my terrible hair instead...

Right, going to take the washing in. Only had 2 glasses of wine all week and no white carbs but still feel like a whale. Been reading the Louise Parker book but it's all waffle about creating a beautiful, serene environment (fat chance in my house), scented bubble baths and an hour's wind down before getting 7 hours sleep on Egyptian cotton sheets etc... To calm the adrenals apparently. This is before you get to the diet bit. If I had the time and money for all that I could just get Lipo

Hey hope have burnt the beef on the outside but middle isn't done . bugger it. Will just saw off the edible bits. I feel the same about what to wear in the summer...got to go to London this week and want to look glamorous and skeek, not fat and frumpy!

Hi all, I don't remember posting last night but sorry, shouldn't of written about food stuff, not relevant. Hungover today (not surprising) so been in bed all afternoon, off to work in a bit.

lala puppy is so cute! Hope the baby shower wasn't too bad, good luck with the AF night.

faire a mood chart is a good idea. I sort of already know the main pattern though...dont drink, feel good about this, reward self by drinking, feel shit.... I do realise the logical step would be to cut out the drinking bit but easier said than done! Drinking less has given me more of an appetite, which should be a good thing, just can send me into a bit of a panic at times.

Anyway sounds like everyone's been enjoying the sunshine. Starting three nights tonight, so if someone can fast forward time to Wednesday morning I'd be very grateful!

Ugh now I've dragged myself back out of bed I've realised I'm still really hungover tonight's not going to be fun.

Evening babes!

lala your puppy is the cutest ! I have heard dogs and cats can be every bit as challenging as babies so don't let it put you off.....if you can deal with puppy poonami's you can deal with baby poomani's Hope the baby shower goes well...its horrible when you don't know people but usually fine after a little while.

rural 6 months sober. WOW. Inspirational.

hallle huge well done on not getting super drunk...if only it could always be like that hey? Damn it!

ma your dinner sounds yummy.

mouse so good to hear from you, i've been thinking of you. Sorry to hear you've had a tough time of it.

Home from our trip now....exhausted! How lovely it was to come home to the sunny weather though, makes a change. Have only had 1 af day so far in May so plan to build on that now.

Thanks for being here babes. Even though things are going ok for me at the moment i rely so heavily on this board and am often thinking of you all.

In bed with camomile tea. Had wine while sitting out in the garden but was starting to really feel it( maybe tolerance is dropping?) so just had water with dinner and now tucked up listening to the blackbird singing in the garden.

Hi all, work thankfully is fairly quiet (up to now...probably jinxed it!) and hangover disappeared as soon as I got here and got into work mode (think it was as much anxiety as anything).

Just felt I needed to post a bit of an apology, and a thank you. Constantly getting myself in a state, then posting drunken self pitying rants in the early hours is not helpful to anyone, me included. I knew I was going to get drunk Saturday night, if I'm honest I'd planned it knowing I had all of yesterday to lounge around in bed and recover. I knew I wouldn't be in control when I choose to start drinking at 6, and when I 'treated' myself to a bottle of gin. I also knew if would make me feel like shit, both during and after but I still choose to do it. It was all planned and I'm realising now I need to take a bit of personal responsibility and either change my plans or stop whining about them as I know what the consequences are.

I appreciate everyone's support so much, and have come to rely on it, almost a bit too much maybe. With your support I have addressed so much that I have been trying and failing to do on my own for a long time, but I'm cringing a bit at how self pitying and self obsessed I must come across when I'm drunk. So from now on I'm going to try and be more constructive.

Anyway hope you're all tucked up in bed asleep, only a few more hours and I will be too. Xxx

Great post Elba. The realisation that only you can change things and that you have the ultimate responsibility is the next big step. Now that you have reached this point you are considered open to smacks round the chops with Barrie the squid when you slide back into self-pity mode.
I had better get up. I am soldier ogling today and very much looking forward to it......

Mouse lovely to hear from you. One of my friends suffers from Fibromyalgia and it took ages to get diagnosed. Hopefully you will have more 'good' days than bad ones x

Day 2 AF starting. I hate this effing weather when im tryin to have an AF day all I think about is the sunshine, garden, magazine and glass
Of wine. Thank god I have an almost 1 year old that would make that pretty impossible to sit and do in peace unless I had a sitter and thank god everyone I know who could possibly babysit is working lol. Will take her out in the garden with some toys later to have a wee play in the sun. Is it just me or do you feel lazy when your AF? Like I should be going a long walk and I just ain't in the mood xx