Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along.....

[venusandmars]

Our lovely mouseface usually starts these threads but I've just noticed that the previous one is almost full, so I'm facing technology and get the next one set up.

Anyone, absolutely anyone, who feels they have a problem with drink is welcome here. Whether you're trying to stop, or cut down a little, whether you've been sober for years, or even if you're too scared even to contemplate what is happening. If you think it will help you to post, or lurk, then please do.

There's often a lot of nonsense and banter, but lots of good sound advice.

And there is always lots of support and care and no judgement.

This is the link to the previous thread, if you want to read what's been going on so far The Previous Thread

And this is the link to JesusWhatNext 's original thread started 6 years ago The Original Thread

That's not failing as a human. We all have our vices. To me, we are no worse than an over eater, or someone addicted to sunbeds .... We all do shit that ain't good for us. Im not condoning it, just don't want to hear anyone say they are daikon as a human. I spent all morning itching to take a Valium. I had no time or patience for my daughter. I finally caved, and low and behold, im relaxed happy and we played for ages. If that's thw sacrifice I have to make to make her lofe nicer while I still can then so be it xxx

Thanks halle, and welcome . I don't feel
Great today. Being on this bus has soooo helped and I plan to jump right back on after I've been slapped with the squid lol

sat here alone, yet again. Apple to nobody this week yet again. Someone please go get Barry

Apple? At least in still the queen of typos

Hello, can I join?
My mum was an alcoholic for a lot of my life and she died last year, it hit me so much harder than I thought it would and I'm still struggling now. I always vowed I would never do to my children what she put me through yet here I am wanting to drink more and more. I crave the feeling of being drunk, it's starting to become really comforting and it's worrying me. I don't drink huge amounts but I do binge.

How do you guys find ways to stop or cut down? I think about drinking all the time, do you just have to ignore it until it goes away?

So let's be honest. Today I've had one can of beer, one large white whine, 2ltr of cider and I've just opened a bottle of white. That will go I'm sure.

Ive honestly had no alcohol at all for a few days now. But what I wouldn't give for a huge glass of rose wine. Ive had Valium thouhh so to be honest im no better than anyone else who has caved today. Im addicted to both and ive had one or the other every other day for a long time now. I binge to Mrpony, to the point of blacking out and wettin the bed (disgusting I know) and I think about drink ever single day. Im so glad I found this place today. I already feel a little better just being in here chatting and knowing that when I trip up, none of you will be shaking your heads in shame xx thanks for letting me
On the bus xx

Welcome pony. You really do have to try and ignore it and fight it.
I am so fucking determined to have at least one bloody AF night. Everyone else manages it so God knows why I can't. If I can get to 9.30 I will do it.

Well I wasn't going to but the vodka was too tempting. Sinking my first and watching grease live. I always manage to convince myself that tonight is the last night

Also, thank you claret xx

Hope all the lovely babes are doing better that me X

will its so good to see you posting again. Shall i do the honours? goes to get barry from the boot

mrpony learning to ignore the craving is a big part of it, finding coping mechanisms is another. Distractions, alternatives etc. i've cut down this year by tracking what i drink...i try month on month to drink less. So far its a success for me.

halle it can be hard not to swap one vice for another. And you are right, you will never get judged on this bus.

ma hows it going? Day 1 is bloody tough, keep fighting.

That's today done and dusted, alcohol free , went for a walk after my dinner and had a bath, am in bed now and going to watch House of Cards.

My father was an alcoholic/drug user and he hung himself last September. Im absolutely worried sick I will never get out of this hole and I will end up like him. I have 2 beautiful chikdren, a lovely husband, a nice house, and a house full of love aswell. But I can't kick these two habits and it's the Valium worrying me most because I was told on the dry oage earlier how horrendous the with drawls are. Im gutted that ive ended up just loke my father. Someone I swore I'd never be like xx

Hey indie my love. Is the split definite? Poor you, but I really do think it is for the best for you. Is DP going to be difficult bout access
Have made it and will be AF tonight for the first time in months.

Have you been to the gp at all Halle? The withdrawals sound scary but once you are through it you hopefully won't have to go through it again.
From everything I've read you are more likely to have addiction problems if your parents have had them so don't blame yourself too much. You still have chance to change your path x

Ma well done on tonight

Thanks joey.

Well done ma and isinde (two weeks - look at you).

obrigada I've also had a walk and a bath and am now off to bed with my book. Worn out but happy to be peaceful and sober. It's a good kind of tired

ma well done! Hope your getting a lovely AF sleep.

will great to hear from you.

lala how are you doing? Hope you're feeling better after you're bug.

Off to bed so trying to get into 'work mode' and resist another half glass of wine. I'm always on about how careful I am about moderating before work (maybe to reassure myself as much as anyone else) but over the course of this evening I've had 10 units , although slowly since 6pm. This isn't unusual, but it's telling that I obsessively eat mints and cover myself with perfume when I start work isn't it? So I guess new goal is to readdress my attempts to moderate between AF days, although I think long term I just shouldn't drink at all but that prospect is still too scary to contemplate.

Anyhow night babes, 5.30 am is getting stupidly close! Xxx

Hope you got some sleep Elba, and well done Ma on your AF night. Day 5 here. Am feeling fine (often go a few days) and eating healthily but having the most appalling nightmares (hence wide awake now). Also, trivial problem here, it's finally getting sunny and I feel too fat for summer clothes . G'aaaaagh.

Isinde sending you hugs and .... I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time. I hope you can work things out with STBXH without too much grief. I know from years of posts how much you do in that relationship. You are being amazing staying sober in all this. You . And if you ever need a hug I am often in Liverpool

Joey how are you babe? How is DD? Eating? Such a worry. And here's hoping things with you DH improve or that one of you daydreams come true xxx

Ever think we'd all be much better if there were a van that came round and humanely removed troublesome people from our lives? They could go to a home and be looked after and bloody drive each other mad with their quirks and negativity and we could get on with our lives without all the drama and expense (wistful emoji).

Right, May as well get up for work. Hope all lovely babes have a good day today xxx

Morning Looking, I hear you re the sun coming out and feeling too fat for summer clothes . It's a beautiful sunny morning here as well.

Waves to all babes - today I will not be drinking!

Isinde, I have just printed that out, I absolutely love it .