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So....can I ask my electrician for his phone number?

337 replies

TrafficJunkie · 21/04/2016 10:12

Or is there an etiquette which means he's not allowed to do that sort of thing? :)

OP posts:
Clarkgriswoldforever · 05/05/2016 16:04

Maybe the woman who took your call fancies a piece of Sparky herself and didn't pass your message on Shock

ThisIsTheRightTime · 05/05/2016 16:15

I think he's already on AL, unfortunately, UmmBum, Clarkgriswoldforvever and twolittleboys.

He will return from AL at some point though! Wink

LordoftheTits · 05/05/2016 16:23

I've just found this thread and was really hoping for a good outcome at the end - argh! Fingers crossed it all goes well Grin

SnoozeButtonAbuser · 05/05/2016 16:29

Maybe the woman in the office is his girlfriend, or wants to be - he might not have got the message.

Kn33 · 06/05/2016 09:17

I would be superglued to my phone. Don't know how your nerves are handling it Traffic 🙈😂

AlwaysNC · 06/05/2016 10:11

Do you know what company he works for or is done via an office? Does he have his own business you can find him on yellow pages etc and just drop him a text. No pressure to speak, can say if your attached apologies if single would like to get a drink. It gives him an out too

Waltermittythesequel · 06/05/2016 10:34

He's on leave now isn't he? Sad

SoleBizzz · 06/05/2016 13:43

Ohhhhhh god you should have just asked him out. I think my sink needs unblocking. .wo der who'll I get God help him Grin

TrafficJunkie · 06/05/2016 22:13

Haha sorry for my absence!!!

I'd love to say he called, we laughed, he came over, and sparks flew (ahahaha)

But no. He has not called. The woman in the office sounded a little bemused that there wasn't a problem with the job but I needed to speak to him....so perhaps she twigged. And it's possible she threw a spanner in the works!!

Or maybe he's lazy and cba on his last day before leave.

He'll be back next week I think she said Friday so I'll see if he calls then!!!

drmorbius you dirty boy.

OP posts:
LovePGtipsMonkey · 07/05/2016 01:12

maybe she simply forgot to pass the message, if the office is busy and has actual problems to deal with haha! or she may have thought, this can wait until he is back.

I'd ring again and check whether they'd pass the message - maybe come up with something specific, like you need to know how to operate whatever he repaired, so that it doesn't break again - or something !

But yes it could be that she fancies him and therefore very sensitive to other women's interest and could tell from your voice that it's not a serious issue - try to sound confident and a bit demanding, as if you indeed must get the info from him, maybe then she'll stop thinking that it's personal.

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ThisIsTheRightTime · 11/05/2016 10:22

Aggghh, I need a little guidance in a moment of weakness, please!

OK, for those of you who haven't been following, my wonderful, younger and very attractive car mechanic, who I've known for over a year professionally speaking, way back in March started sending me signals which I was to shy or foolish to pick up on at the time (I just wasn't ready in my head). I only get to see him once every few weeks (my car's in pretty good shape Wink) and for a few minutes only and the owners of the garage are always around. Obviously I respect his work environment and our working relationship too much to do anything overt Grin but there was most certainly something happening there...

Last time I saw him we arranged he'd come round to my home to pick up my old Jag as I would like to sell it. I can't drive it to the garage as it isn't insured. He asked me to call at the beginning of the week to fix a time as the garage was closed for AL beforehand. I called this morning and the owner's wife took the call. She told me they were really busy until the end of the week but they could arrange to have it picked up next Tuesday (Monday is another bank holiday here in France).

And now I'm feeling frustrated. I'm all for letting things happen naturally and thinking that what will be will be, or not. I also wonder if, having had very little encouragement from my side due to above-mentioned shyness, he's moved on in his head and if the moment might have passed us by. I know he's not married and he certainly doesn't have children. I don't know if he has a girlfriend. I simply know from him that last year was a bad one for him. He's reserved and not a flirt. I'm not looking for anything serious but I would like the chance to get to spend some time with him to get a clearer picture.

This afternoon I have to pop over to the garage as a friend of mine is having her car repaired and needs me to drive her somewhere.

So, dear helpful people, what the heck do I do? Wait another week (there have been a lot of weeks spent waiting) or say/do something today? Smile

AmberGreyson · 11/05/2016 10:23

lol he must be really cute

ThisIsTheRightTime · 11/05/2016 10:26

Yes, AmberGreyson he certainly is. And respectful. And reassuring.... Smile

Horsemad · 11/05/2016 10:48

Please just ask him out for a drink! I keep reading this thread and am getting frustrated for TrafficJunkie and you, ThisIs!

Please, just do it. For me? Wink

ThisIsTheRightTime · 11/05/2016 10:54

Bless you Horsemad! I wish I could lure him away from his place of work and bosses. It's just so hard to put yourself out there in such an environment. And my friend will be with me when I see him which will make it a little awkward. AND, there's the technical hitch that I don't really want to switch car mechanics if he rejects me.

Pitiful, right? Grin

ps I wonder what's happened with TrafficJunkie...

Kflori · 11/05/2016 12:58

Darn it, I just read through the thread, and was soooo hoping for a good outcome for both of you!!!!! Am still keeping fingers crossed.... xx

Horsemad · 11/05/2016 14:45

Have you seen him yet ThisIs? Smile

LovePGtipsMonkey · 12/05/2016 00:31

This, I think the obvious would be to ask him to call you about your Jag, and say (away from boss's ears) that you really hope it will be sooner than next week! Also it's a shame you couldn't ask the boss's wife to speak to him directly. - if he wasnt there today, maybe do that, explain that yo need to discuss the Jag with him before arranging to pick it up. And when he calls maybe suggest that he stops by to have a quick lok at the car without actually taking it away if he's busy..

Iwasbornin1993 · 12/05/2016 01:24

Ahh the end of the thread and no date yet?! Hope he calls when he's back from his annual leave, OP!

ThisIsTheRightTime · 12/05/2016 08:46

Are you ready for an update? Wink

Yesterday I picked my friend up at the garage as promised. Car mechanic guy was out and about, the garage was packed and everybody was pretty busy. I brought her back just before closing. Things were still hectic. The boss's wife apologised for not being able to make an appointment sooner and was very sweet. It's obvious their week's AL has entailed a backlog of work for them.

The owner turns up and greets me. Car mechanic guy comes out to help him. He doesn't look at me and doesn't say hello. My friend was indignant. Way more than me TBH. Smile

They are on the point of closing the garage and the boss's wife leaves. The boss asks me to stay for a drink. Car mechanic man is having to work after hours on a neighbour's car. My friend leaves, bless her! So I'm sat with the boss and car mechanic's older brother having a drink, or two or three... I find out the brother has two kids and I nonchalantly ask if they all have kids. No, no my younger brother doesn't. Since his longterm girlfriend split up he's too busy switching girlfriends and he's in-between women at present.

OK, interesting.

Car mechanic and neighbour join us for a drink. Atmosphere is relaxed and smiley. I feel at ease. He goes back to finish job.

More whisky. Owner is discretely hitting on me in the nicest possible way. He asks about my future ex husband. I tell him he's being a pain. He tells me he thought he was acting unpleasant and weird the last times he saw him. Good to know.

Finally, the car's done. Hurrah! Car mechanic comes back. Strips to his boxer shorts in front of me to wash and change. He sits down beside me and more drinks are served. He tells me he bought a dog to fill the void since his girlfriend left him. Fascinating! Grin Plenty of eye contact and smiling. It felt as though he was relaxed and natural. TBH I was happy just to spend some time hanging out to just get a feel for things. I hardly know the guy.

His mother called him twice. The neighbour had to get back. The owner wanted to close shop and offered to drive me home. Garage chap said he'd drive me. It was around 9.30pm. He left his motorbike at the garage and took my car. I was very, very drunk. In the car he asked me how my future ex husband was behaving. I told him he was being a pain. I asked him about what had happened to him and he told me his girlfriend, after seven years, had left him, pretexting she wanted to concentrate on her work, clearly the break up was hard for him.

I was taken aback that he knew the way to my home and my address. I asked him how he knew the road so well and he replied, laughing, it was thanks to the GPS. There was no GPS. I don't think he's been there before.

Something could have happened in the car. It was bloody obvious. However on parking the car I saw that the neighbour chap, who's car he'd been working on, had followed us in his car. Obviously he had to take take car mechanic back to the garage so that he could pick up his motorbike and the boss could lock up.

I gave him a hug. He held me for a few seconds. They both took me into my home, checked everything was ok and then left.

And then I might have passed out a little!

So? Grin

iseenodust · 12/05/2016 09:01

Result ! Love the telling you he is sensitive and single has got a dog to fill the void.

ThisIsTheRightTime · 12/05/2016 12:54

I think, on post drunken reflection, I'm going to close my mind to this possibility. He's good looking, seems kind and quite sensitive but clearly he's not completely free in his head.

I cannot hope for something which may well not occur. At least if we get on well with nothing more then things will remain uncomplicated.

It took some time to get there but I think I'm on the right path.

And where, pray tell, is TrafficJunkie hiding?

BasinHaircut · 12/05/2016 16:06

I missed your initial posts this so don't know the full story, but I think that the mechanics plying you with alcohol and taking you home sounds a bit creepy!

ThisIsTheRightTime · 12/05/2016 16:34

Really BasinHaircut? I really don't see it that way. No one overstepped the line and they were very kind with me the whole evening through.