I've been unceremoniously dumped, help me get over it

[Kbfdhnb]

There is an arrow in my side & it fucking hurts. My bf of 6 months has dumped me. There were no arguments, indeed we were planning a mini-break - his idea. Now I have to somehow get over it & put him behind me. I'm in a lot of pain he made me feel incredible and now I'm cut out of his life. How do I get through the pain? I have no family but I do have friends although I don't want to share this with them.

Well someone of his age really ought to know better about how to end a relationship. If he hasn't grown up by now, he never will... Never married and in his 50s? I may be cynical but it kind of suggests he can't hold down a relationship.

In short, this probably isn't about you at all.

Day 3 and I feel like the 'walking-wounded'. Still got a bloody great arrow in my side but I've managed to loosen it a bit. It doesn't help that there are reminders of him everywhere in my house, all over my life in fact. I went to the freezer this morning to take some meat out for later, only to see the puddings he'd bought me sitting there. Walked past my shelf to see his Valentine sitting there. Couldn't bare to chuck it out just yet but I did turn it around so as not to see the picture. The book he bought me is still on my bedside table. His mark is everywhere. I bought some beautiful shoes for a date, he loved them, I loved them. But when I look at them now I think of him. Sad isn't it? It may have only been 6 months but we packed an awful lot into that time. We often saw each other 2 -3 times a week and almost all the weekends. We txt'd many times a day and chatted every other day. Still, I have to steel myself, I'm a lovely catch for the right person and I wasn't right for him. I just wish he could have carried out his dumping with the same delicacy he treated me with throughout our short relationship. He obviously feels embarrassed and awkward and I'll bet he's feeling bad about it even if it was what he wanted. Deep breath. Lets see if I can get through today without shedding a tear, that'll be a first.

There's no excuse for his behaviour. Early on in a relationship you don't see the real person because they're on best behaviour.

Get rid of anything he gave you or that reminds you of him - it will make things easier in the long run.

OP you are in full wallow mode about now which is absolutely fine and normal...the feeling of loss of purpose is massive. Eventually you'll realise that equating your purpose and happiness to a man you've dated for six months , no matter how nice he was at the time is a bit bonkers and you'll start to remember your own good bits that you've always had regardless of him, that's you're "I'm every woman" stage where you have a proper wash, do you your hair and get a little twinkle back - this is all a VERY GOOD THING and I predict it will kick in by weekend or early next week

Slow Have you got a crystal ball or something? I think my 'I'm every woman' stage kicked in today. Somehow I managed to pull the arrow out of my side and go and get a new haircut. (he'd told me to keep it long) I made sure I only walked on the sunny side of the street and my face is now pink from the sun After that I bought some sexy new clothes to go with the sexy new hair and had a stupid realisation: that I am responsible for my own happiness and I mustn't rely on a boyfriend to provide it for me. Somehow that allowed me to 'step-down' a notch. I still get too many repeated moments of feeling physically sick like an earthquake has gone under my feet but I can at last feel the stirrings of moving on. Why the brain has to flash the bad memory through your conscious so many times a day I don't know.

For the record, stuff fucking hurts though

Excellent news!!! now when you have a bad memory as it were it can be just that - a memory, what's happened has only just passed but it has passed remember that, and look its actually fed and awoken your inner goddess again, woohoo!

How are you now Kbfdhnb are you feeling any better?