Ex introducded ds to new girlfriend without telling me

[BedsideLamp]

That's it really, he told dc that he had a new girlfriend then took ds (8) there to meet her. I found this out from dc when i picked them up. He thinks he has done nothing wrong and that we just have different opinions on the matter. I think he should have discussed it with me first.

When your children are in his care, it's up to him where they go and who they see.

Sounds like your playing games though. Showing him the thread? Why?

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies, my ex has seen the thread and isn't happy so I've asked for it to be deleted

My DH knows I'm on here.... and.

In less than 1.5 hours you have written a thread, your ex has independently been on MN, seen this thread, contacted you and you have in turn asked for it to be deleted.

Or maybe you aren't happy with the replies.

Me finks the OP was expecting an ex trashing....

My ex is emotionally abusive. Check my other thread. We had an argument and he knows i come on here as i have no support IRL and he checked.

How does he know it's you?

Think what you like about me but you couldn't be more wrong.

Its fairly easy to recognise me from what just happened between us.

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies, my ex has seen the thread and isn't happy so I've asked for it to be deleted

Even if that were true (which I highly doubt) I don't think that's a reason for the thread to be deleted.

You can't get a thread deleted just because you don't like the answers OP.

If he is that abusive, and knows your name, you know he monitors you then change your details.

The thread itself started with a very non-descriptive post, that could have been written by any number of people.

I've looked at your other threads and they seem to be mainly about lighting?

You know over the years I've come on here for support and always felt at home here. Via different user names. But this has really sunk me.

If you don't like the replies then abandon the thread

There are no police to make you come back

And if he knows who you are on here why don't you name change?

K, why do you feel sunk?

What else is happening

Hopefully introducing the gf to your DC means he will leave you alone?

Thanks for all the advise

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Ok i will ask them to delete it now i shouldn't have posted the link.

Sounds like you're both very controlling of eachother in that case...

FWIW I gave my ex a heads up before I introduced DS to DP as didn't think it was fair for ex to find out via DS...

I think if both parents know what is happening with the child's world then they can parent better.

Still don't agree with the deletion

People I am sure would help and support you if you asked for advise on how to deal with the issue, as I said your allowed to feel how you feel and it can grind and be difficult.

however you asked if you should have been consulted, the answer was mainly no - but if you want help and support on how to get through that then I am very confident people will help you.

Im not bothered that he has someone I'm happy as it means he will leavee me alone. But my ds is upset.

I also don't agree with the deletion.

What I love about mumsnet is that people are genuinely very honest in their comments and if every poster didn't like the responses when not agreeing with them it wouldn't be the place it is.

Sorry X posts, then talk about that OP if you want and people will help you on how to help him.

Im not controlling - im the opposite - i just like to know whats happening with my dc as 1 is very sensitive.

If your ex has seen this thread and isn't happy why have you then gone on to add a link to your other thread? Surely the other thread would annoy him a lot more than this one (which is largely full of people saying he's done nothing wrong)?

My ex wanted it deleted ffs. He;s not happy. and ive cried enough to keep it here.

Yes i realised that. After i done it and i cant undo it.