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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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lalaladidah · 17/04/2016 15:47

ma the cream is definitely not optional! Ok, so I had a lovely afternoon riding my horse, then someone suggested pub and beer garden as the weather is so lush, so stupidly I agreed, thinking I would have a diet coke or something else saintly. But typical me, had a wine or two. Now desperately trying to resist the wine that is still on top of the cupboard. I am a complete prat. Argh. And I've got work tomorrow as well. hits head against brick wall

Fairenuff · 17/04/2016 18:40

Claret you are not cracking up Grin, we do indeed have a babe called journeyon.

(But it is hard to keep up with everyone at the moment as the bus is so busy)

Margie32 · 17/04/2016 18:59

Oh Claret, Sitges is one of the most lovely places on earth, I think you'd find it bigger but it hasn't lost its charm. It's also a drinker's paradise and I've had some nights out there that I'd rather forget and some that I can't remember.

Ma, will PM you about your DD.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 17/04/2016 19:18

faire thank you, glad to know I've not gone loopy.

margie fortunately my visits to sitges were (largely) before my drinking got bad - so I can remember it guilt free. Perhaps that's part of the reason I feel so fondly about it.

elba I totally know what you mean. I do appreciate wine more when I moderate but have to be very very mindful of not enjoying it so much that I have 'just one more' as 3 is the turning point for me - and can often lead to 4, 5, 6.

All a bit tense at our house today, dh is doing my head in with his moods. He has no bloody idea. I could go on but I'll just wind myself up!

How are you lovely babes this evening?

Elba84 · 17/04/2016 20:16

lala how are you doing?

Felt on edge this afternoon and really wanted a drink, so from about 5 I've been thinking in 30 minute slots. I have a day off and no plans tomorrow so tonight is prime binging opportunity, so trying to at least start later. Been alternating between cleaning, attempting to study and colouring (and a lot of smoking!). Weirdly I don't actually fancy the taste at all, it's more just a strong feeling that something is missing!

claret sorry things are tense. Feel free to have a rant if it helps!

Rarity75 · 17/04/2016 20:17

Evening claret I'm ok, survived an unexpected pub visit this afternoon. Only had half a lager (unheard of!). Also having OH issues, seems to be a common theme!
Have you tried knitting yet??

Rarity75 · 17/04/2016 20:20

Hi elba well done for resisting!

WillAndDisgrace · 17/04/2016 20:35

OMG!!!! I sent this to my babysitter!!! Love how she doesn't even acknowledge is out of politeness Blush

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher
ClaretAndBlue30 · 17/04/2016 20:45

Oh will hahahahahaha that has made me laugh. I love how she doesn't acknowledge it!

elba he threw a curve ball and actually came and apologised to me - this is incredibly rare so he obviously knows he was being a dick. I seriously sometimes feel like I have 2 children.

Sounds like you have a good plan in place, do you find that as you've done af days now you are picking up techniques on how to best to deal with them? (I say this as I find the more I do the better I get at them)

ClaretAndBlue30 · 17/04/2016 20:48

rarity my knitting magazine is still sitting unopened Sad. My problem is I'll waste my time i don't really think that on my phone of an evening browsing the Internet etc not doing productive stuff like knitting....I will pick up those needles this week!

ClaretAndBlue30 · 17/04/2016 20:49

And big well done on the half a lager!

Rarity75 · 17/04/2016 20:53

Hahaha!! will that's hilarious!!

claret if you do I will too. Have not been doing any myself and I miss it.

Elba84 · 17/04/2016 21:06

claret glad he at least realised! Yeah I think I have picked up tips, it almost feels like practice if that makes sense? But also I've only timed them when I've been home late and tired so I've not had to spend a whole evening resisting. Although usually I would of been drunk by now with two days off, and I've not had anything yet so I guess this is progress too. If I'm honest the health stuff has scared the crap out of me, so maybe subconsciously it's given me a bit of a kick to get my head out the sand.

rarity well done on sticking to a half!

will Grin

theoneandonlyitchymcitch · 17/04/2016 22:08

elba I just got told it was no wonder I was not married yet by my horrendously evil mother

Having a name change fail, but suffice to say, wine is being drunk.

It's Lala by the way.

Fucking pissed off and angry and feel so so hurt.

laladidah · 17/04/2016 22:10

Ooh I am back as Lala. Great. Sorry about the Nc.

Fuck. I am so pissed off and upset

dementedma · 17/04/2016 22:16

Why on earth did she say thatlala? And if she thinks being married is the height of aspiration, she's a tad misguided!

Rarity75 · 17/04/2016 22:18

Oh lala that's just mean! If it makes you feel any better I am 40. I am divorced, nc with EXP (DD's dad), and about to end my latest relationship with the cocklodger currently snoring upstairs!

Being in a relationship/marriage does mean a Disney ending. It's all bloody luck Flowers

Rarity75 · 17/04/2016 22:19

Doesn't mean! Bloody predictive text Angry

Elba84 · 17/04/2016 22:20

Oh lala sorry that's such a cruel thing to say. Probably nothing I can say that will make you feel better but sending big hugs. Will be awake for a while yet so keep posting.

laladidah · 17/04/2016 22:22

Don't know ma. She feels the need to insult me and have a go at me all the fecking time. She said it with a sense of pride: 'next door say it's no wonder your aren't married yet, and I agree'... For fecks sake...

It doesn't help that every single boyfriend I have had has been vetoed by her. And she has made my life hell. Plus my dad couldn't stand her and left her about s year before he dropped dead.

Sorry, I am just feeling super sorry for myself, and now more determined to make it work with my boyfriend now.... ARGHGHF GRRRR ETC.

Rarity75 · 17/04/2016 22:24

Only make it 'work' if you want it to lala. Not just to spite your mother. That way years could be wasted.

laladidah · 17/04/2016 22:30

For fucks sake, why the feck would you say that to anyone? Let alone your daughter??? I am stuck here living in her (dad's) house and I am completely and utterly fucked. My dad died really suddenly, he didn't leave a will and my mother is being extremely difficult about everything.

ARGH!!! Drinking the wine

Elba84 · 17/04/2016 22:32

My mum has a habit of making similar comments (she doesn't make them in a nasty way though I don think, more of a foot in mouth type way), usually about how well my friends lives are going compared to mine. And constant comments about grandchildren. But it generally always hits me where it really hurts and I know how shit it can make me feel. Flowers

laladidah · 17/04/2016 22:39

elba my mum is proper toxic. Sorry to hear that yours makes similar comments. Mike is awful and I really do hate her. Not sure what to do...

Plus just found out today that an old friend died of cancer two days ago. Hadn't seen her for years, but she was a good mate when we were teenagers. Ffs. It's all a bit much this evening.

Elba84 · 17/04/2016 22:42

That sounds a horrible (and complicated) situation to be in. Were they still married then when he died? Must be massively stressful, and horrible to be stuck living it's her. Have you got siblings?