Worried/Scared, advice please.

[RyVeeta]

Going to see someone about the emotional abuse I have been coping with, with an aim to leaving in due course. I'm not terribly good at explaining things and am concerned it'll all just sound trite and trivial. Would it be an idea to print off some of my threads from here to take. I'm far better expressing myself in writing and they would hopefully make it clear how long it's been going on and to what extent. I'm really worried I'll be dismissed or told that I am heartless because of dh's disabilities. It's taken me years to get to this point and I don't want to mess it up now.
Thank you.

Still about, will try and update later.
Thank you.

Crikey, up,down, all around. Last week I was abusive for withdrawal of affection. Tried to talk but won't if I use the word abuse! Eventually agreed to take it easy on dds,that lasted a day. Agreed to help out in the house a bit, still waiting for anything more significant than the washing getting down the stairs!
Went out with dd1 yesterday, was good. Picked up Dd2 who had a bit of a tough day. Got home, said hi, dd1 told him about dd2s day, and then someone asked where something was. I have no idea what happened but he was ranting and raving. We hadn't been in five minutes. I had to threaten police. He backed off and continued to rant in another room. We went out again. Got back hours later and he was sleeping. He apologised today with encouragement and now he thinks everything is hunky dory! Wtf!

Just another lurker here cheering you on from the sidelines. Please stay strong and get yourself out of this horrible situation. Your life could be so different. Stop feeling guilty. When does HE ever feel guilty? Sending love.

How are you getting on? you've been on my mind RyVeeta.

Hi,
He was arrested on Friday and admitted an assault charge. (It really wasn't anything awful) he was cautioned. Anyway, he was held in custody for 24 hours but had nowhere to go. Dds and I had a chat and decided he could come home with various provisos in place. The police were amazing. Very kind, extremely patient and helpful. I have absolutely no idea what made me call them, I think something just flipped and I knew I couldn't go on. He had started on Thursday morning and hadn't stopped, it just seemed so relentless.
Anyway, I have an appointment with his CPN next week to discuss the option of sheltered housing should things go awry, that way should anything happen we don't have to have him back. He is very aware that we didn't want him back and that he is only here because we weren't prepared to put him on the streets.
What this has done is to make me realise that the police really can help and that I don't have to put up with being bullied for the rest of my life. I am strong enough to follow this through now and will ask him to go to sheltered housing if he continues his games.
Thank you so much for your support, everybody.

That's great news, I'm so pleased that you've gained strength and support you can access in your everyday life. That's very important for you all and to see accessible alternatives and options.

It's also important that you've posted about the Police and CPN help, how it's worked for you and that it's a good thing to do to go to them for assistance. That may help countless other people who may read this thread

Good luck going forward