Men on online dating posting pictures of themselves....

[lottielou7]

Standing there in their pants. Since when did this become a thing?? Do they not realise how desperate it looks?

I actually thing OD is becoming worse not better!

One of my colleagues was OD after separating, and came across her estranged husband. He used a photo from their engagement party! She had been cropped out, but he had her bag and jacket under one arm. You could see her shoulder and arm with engagement ring visible.

A lot of men pose with their daughters. I think they want you to wonder though, is that his daughter? It is a turn off though. One man, we'd got chatting and in one of his photos (he had about 8 to be fair) there was a woman, definitely not his daughter though. We had been messaging a fair bit so I asked ''who is the woman in your photo, and is that the best way to win over new women...?!". It was breezy, honestly. He reacted in a non-breezy way. He said he didn't know me well enough to explain who she was yet but she was important to him. for fuxache. it's a dating site. Posing with a woman who is important to you you like her, she doesn't like you like that, you can't let it go? is not the way to meet other women.

Mag314s your posts are hilarious, you should be a comedy writer. The comment about wanting to have a cup of tea with that man's ideal woman made me laugh out loud!

I know exactly what you mean about the photos. Paunchy 50-something on a Spanish beach surrounded by a bevy of nubile beauties. I'm sure it's designed to make us sad single middle aged women wonder if they're his daughters, or whether he's such a catch that we really aren't worthy!

I don't mind pictures AT weddings.

Men look good in suits.
Photos get taken at weddings.
Men my age have probably been to a lot of weddings in the last few years (assuming they have friends).

BREEZY!

Thanks Jolly. YOu and I should go on a date! It'd have gone better than that one did :-p :-p

oh Monica! All that angst for Magnum !!

Mag on a more serious note that bloke you went on a date with sounds very controlling,

I can imagine him making nasty comments to a pregnant partner if she dared to gain any weight. Potential abuser.

Does anyone else find that you only get men with kids message you if you have children yourself? Just curious!

No. I never put that I have kids on dating sites. I mention it on the phone prior to a date, if it gets that far.
Most people my age, where either live, do have kids, so I think people often assume that anyway.

So you put you don't have kids?

No, of course not, I just leave it blank. Lots of people do.

On pof you can't...

Do you find that you waste much time talking to people who, when they find out you have kids, are no longer interested?

If people are put off by children then it usually means they don't really like children. In which case you certainly don't want to be with them.

I do think that a man who has got into his 30s and beyond with no children has never particularly wanted to be a father. Its a generalisation of course but having had quite a lot of OD experience, it's the conclusion that I would draw.

It's not specifically children, just anything that you KNOW could be someone's hard line - it's better to have it there in your profile so that you don't waste your time talking to those people.

If you have facial piercings and you know that some people are put off by them, you wouldn't take photos only from the left so as to hide your nose piercing. You'd make sure it was visible so you didn't waste your time talking to anyone who hated piercings.

No trills, not usually an issue. Occasionally I guess, but like lottielou says, if a man is put off by children, he's not going to be right for me anyway.

When I was online dating I chatted to loads of men. I see it as spreading the net wide, and seeing what I reel in, rather than specifically looking for a type. I'm exclusively dating someone now who I probably would have discounted for various (non worrying) reasons, but because I don't take it too seriously and just see what happens, it's actually working out well...so far!

I can never understand why so many men take pictures looking down, no, no, no! It is such a bad angle. I have seen some shockers. It's almost like they don't check the picture before uploading it. Men sat in dirty chairs, looking stoned. Bleurgh!

Multiple profiles, different ages, same photo- duh!

I've been privy to a cock shot. Completely unsolicited from a man in his late forties who should have known better. Not cool.

I screen shot some of the horror pictures and send to my friends for a chuckle!

if a man is put off by children, he's not going to be right for me anyway.

What I'm saying here is that since that is the case, why not weed them out straight away? So that you don't waste any of your time talking to those men.

This is making me laugh so much. Just started this OLD and I thought it was just me thought the car pics and naked in bed pics where odd.

What I'm saying here is that since that is the case, why not weed them out straight away?
I guess I also want to weed out anyone who is interested in me because I have a child? Is that super paranoid?
Anyway, I have plenty of time to waste!

I didn't realise that Plenty of Fish referred to actual fish.