help me word a Dear John text please?

[Nothavingfunrightnow]

We have been seeing each other a short while but he is not my cup of tea after all. He is certainly not going to crumple into a heap when he gets my text (and it will be too difficult and take too long to tell him face to face) but I don't need to be nasty at all.

What do I say?

God how awful

Sometimes spelt Kthxbai for extra teeth grinding

I quite like "K" for "OK" though 😀

I always spell full words and even punctuate my texts.

It's good to dump by text so you don't put them on the spot, but make an effort with it being a nice message AND offer to talk if they want to, or let them text back if they want to ask anything. That's assuming a person was ok/nice.

It's very nasty to dump and block or not to respond at all if they get back to you with a 'why' or 'I thought it was going well'. It feels very controlling to the other side, to be told your dating is over and not show them that you at least liked them enough to allow them to ask questions (even if you don't want to give a direct answer - but just to pacify and respect their feelings of rejection, as maybe they did start to have feelings). Also, when someone just dumps and blocks, without knowing the other person well, they can get angry and nasty - even revengeful to a degree. Not because you finished it, but because you've dismissed their possible feelings.

Obviously some people would rather not question or talk to you again after being dunped, but it's polite to give them the option.

I think that it's unkind to put the other person in an awkward position and on the spot

I agree with TheVeryHungryPreggo

Me too, blindsider. Full words and fully punctuated at all times!

Dump by text is efficient, clean and puts neither party on the spot in awkward conversations.

Perfect!

I have not heard from him at all and without going into detail, I honestly do not think that he cared rockets one way or the other. I had the feeling I could have been anyone as long as I was looking adoringly at him.

To say that his daughter at the age of 12 (yes,TWELVE!!) smirked and was "in on it" when his wife announced she wanted a divorce said a lot about him. Please believe me when I say that he will be fine, he would not have been bothered in the slightest by my text and he will have moved on swiftly.

I did the right thing and thanks for your help!

Glad you are feeling like you did the right thing. :)

Not the point of the thread I know, but I'd take with a big pinch of salt his report of the divorce!