My DH does/used to do it as well, not arguments over bins or similar, it was nearly always over the children or finances. I thought he was too hard on the kids, he thought I was undermining him by not letting him enforce his boundaries (which were often way too harsh by my standards).
But also I could have imagined him absolutely hitting the ceiling if, say I had a speeding or parking fine. He never had one! He always maintains that he's been working in jobs he mostly either hated or found desperately boring to be able to provide for me and the kids while I've been a SAHM, and losing money where I could have been less careless and not lost it would be disrespectful to him and his back breaking toiling. In a situation like that he would not have necessarily screamed at me, but I could imagine him shouting out in fury, slamming doors, that sort of thing.
And in the past he did shout at me, and called me stupid idiot, F you, etc, a couple of times it happened even in front of the children. We did nearly divorce each time afterwards. It always felt like his fury came out of nowhere, but afterwards he always said I provoked him, I started a fight (I never meant to) and I can press his buttons like no one else. To be honest, even his mother said he had an extremely short fuse since birth, and he did lose his rag with his employers and even his best friend a couple of times.
Anyway, I did wonder a lot whether it was EA after the last time, and told him about it, and he said that if he made me feel that bad, we needed to separate, that wasn't a way to live our life.
We decided to give it another go, because after the last very long conversation I did see some things I had been doing which might have been EA on MY side, which I would have never recognised as such (I never call anyone names etc), but he maintained that they accumulated continuously damaging his self-esteem and making him feel unloved and disrespected, and that he would eventually explode over something seemingly minor because of my attitude/demeanour grinding away at him previously.
I did use to make mildly jokingly I guess unflattering or sarcastic remarks to him, the more unhappy I felt the more I must have done it, and he would get more and more distant and cold, and I would get more and more depressed and critical and cold to him in return....Anyway, after the last time I started watching myself like a hawk, I realised I thought I was kind but I wasn't really (not in my attitude towards him), and I stopped any criticism and also tried to pull my weight a bit more (had been difficult lately due to non-sleeping baby and some other issues).
Well, DH has CHANGED. Even his voice his changed, the way he is talking to me, he hasn't talked in this syrupy way for years 
. Actually, he seems so far more relaxed and willing to spend time with me, and far less upset by the things which used to drive him crazy (like I nearly always forget to lock the car, after unloading the DCs and stuff, however I try I get distracted by the baby etc and then forget). He used to get quite angry and upset, not swear at me, but tell me off, last time he discovered it he just joked about it.
So I don't know. I definitely felt emotionally abused at times, but he always maintained that he didn't want to control me in any way, he was just tired of me doing the stuff he didn't want me to do again and again. And he did say things 'you pick a fight with me, you get a fight', sounds not good, I know (why would I want to pick a fight with someone I love? but he felt my behaviour was passive agressive a lot)
I feel like we've both jumped off the carousel now, it's been longer than ever without fights or tension, but of course only time would show if actually he is not EA. I know had I known mumsnet when it was a regular-ish thing (once every 2-4months) and had posted about my situation everyone would have shouted LTB, but now I hope we are over it? So it would have been devastation which could have been prevented?