A question about fancying people

[richiecomehome]

I have a problem with no seeming to fancy anyone or want to go on dates with them.

Can I ask how often you fancy people and what makes you fancy someone?

Is it easier for men to move on after the end of relationships? I think my ex is dating again quote soon after our breakup and here I am completely unable to even muster interest.

Not that I usually fancy people often anyway, I just don't.

Loving and relationships is a huge part of life.

I have done what you suggested plenty of times, and ended up single for years at a time which is also a problem.

I'd love to be able to have date and feel quite excited.

Nothing wrong with wanting a bit of that in life!

And I dont see myself looking back aged 80 being glad I devoted so much life to spin classes and movie nights. I suspect I'll be more sad so much of my life was spent alone so wanted to work on that.

Hard when you never fancy anyone!

Wait a minute... 246 unread messages??? Are you rejecting people just on the basis of their looks??? No wonder you can't find anyone attractive. If they all looked like John Clooney they would be taken long before they could give a thought to online dating.

It is not all about the looks,(unless you are 12). I find it fascinating when people are looking for Mr Superbly Handsome, when they won't be attractive to that kind of person themselves.

I have a friend, who is handsome but only messages women that look like models and are twenty years his younger. Then cannot understand why they don't reply.

I also know a woman who says OLD is full of weirdos when she looks like a version of homeless meets Gandalf.

I met my boyfriend in Match. If I had just focused on his looks, I would have never knew how attractive I was going to find him and what a wonderful time we were going to have.