Do you think he is lying?

[Angry009]

Me and my boyfriend have lived together for 9 months since our daughter was born.
He works night shift and now is saying he can't sleep here as its too noisy.
Although she never crys a lot and is at nursery 3 days.
I said il go to my mums during day so he can sleep but he says no il go to my mums instead.
So basically he goes to work at 10pm and finishes at 7am then goes straight to his mums house.
Comes here 6pm the next day till 10pm then goes to work.
Its like he doesn't live here.
He never wanted to move on really until our little girl was born.
This has only started the last few weeks.
Do you think it's strange?
It's like he is back at his mums place.

I think I just miss feeling loved and wanted I guess.
It's like we are friends only at times.

So find someone who loves and wants you.
You are too young to settle for this!

Il be honest I was massively broody.
Had been for years.
I do love him and thought he would knock the teenager behaviour on its head but alas no change.

aah…..

soooo….reading between the lines, you thought if you just quietly went ahead and got pregnant 'by accident' that he'd suddenly see the light and turn into Mr Reliable?

If so then I think you played Russian Roulette and just lost.

I meant

Still not home.
What a shocker.

If he wanted to be at home he'd have tried earplugs.

Many families have night workers that manage perfectly fine.

You need to find out his intentions, no point you being committing the best years of your life with someone who doesn't want the same.

He just text saying just woken up,going to have shower and tea and il be up for 8.
He is off from Friday morning so will have a chat.

Tbh things haven't been ok for a while.
Trying to just plod on.
Ever since I found out he was texting another woman I have been very insecure.
It's seriously knocked my self esteem.
Trying to always make myself look nice.
Nice hair,nice clothes just to try and keep him on me.
I'm trying to put it behind me but one text I found on his phone to her said "what do you think this is" it's playing on my mind,I just hope it was boredom and feelings wernt in the mix.

"Try and keep him on me"
What in gods name does that even mean!?
If you have to make special effort (and what efforts is he making!?) to keep someone's interest then their interest is not worth having is it?
He has cheated.
He will do it again.
Sorry.

I'm not sure why you want to be with such a man.

You sound like a bright and able woman. You are worth much more than a man child.

What do you really love about this cheater? Is it more that you are scared about life without him? I know how that feels, but I have learned that life is so much better when you get over that fear, respect yourself and move on.

Sorry that didn't make a lot of sense did it.I meant so he still found me attractive,sometimes it's so easy to get up on a morning half dead and just throw my leggings and uggs on.
I'm so used to him,and when he wants he could charm the birds out of the trees.
There is glimpses of the man I fell for and he is the one I wish would be around all the time.
My two best friends are divorced and I just don't want to end up alone.

What actual parenting does he do other than paying bills and buying the odd nice frock ?

You are being a mug, I am afraid. Doing the Pick Me Dance for a bloke who couldn't look less interested if he tried.

You are effectively a single parent and his "Jack The Lad" status is well and truly in place.

Tell him to officially move back to his mum's so you can find someone who values you as someone more than a domestic appliance with a vagina.

When he leaves you properly (sorry, but inevitable) and has her EOW and one night a week, you'll be able to go out without needing to beg for permission.

So basically he is bobbling by for two hours?

Yep great daddy material

So basically the majority of you think he is just using his lack of sleep as a excuse to escape?
I think i know the answer already.

Yep

Just because you're not with him, doesn't mean you're going to be alone. I was a single parent for several years, am now married to a wonderful man.

Don't cling to an awful relationship because it seems better than none.

Yes. Sorry.

Yes. He's gone already. He pops round for a visit when he feels like it

He has left you but forgot to tell you. Sorry, love.

I'm afraid I agree. He doesn't even have the courage and decency to admit that's what he's doing.

I wonder what his mum thinks is going on? I bet she thinks he's moved back to hers for the foreseeable.