I've sent him this message, is this ok?

[Janeyat867]

'Today I'm taking off my wedding ring, I've really enjoyed some times we have had and I wish you the best. Unfortunately I cannot stay knowing you like to 'casually' browse escorts and you have not been at all straight with me. I know more has gone on and I'll never know what and I just cannot live with that. You have made me feel really insecure in most parts of life, I can't go on living like this wondering what you're up to, blaming you for looking at other women even if you say you're not and I can't feel worthless anymore. Goodbye'

I feel like I have no one it's horrible, my whole life has been a mess I've got 1 DC from ex and DC from now husband and I feel like a joke and a failure.

You have yourself and that's all you really need. Anyone else is just a bonus. And a man certainly isn't a necessity, nor does having one make you any 'better' than you are on your own. And you are NOT a joke or a failure. You're a lovely woman who unfortunately put her trust in someone who was unworthy of her. I daresay we've all been there to some extent or another. You'll get through this. Maybe not as quickly as you'd like and maybe with a few battlescars, but you'll get there.

Of course it's normal to have your emotions swing from one end of the spectrum to the other, you've been dealt quite a blow.

Again, you should be able to get 1/2 hr free consult with a solicitor. You should avail yourself of that to at least get some questions answered.

Do you not have any family or friends or do you just not want to talk to them about this?

I have family but not close enough to talk, I've spoken to my only friend who says he's a waste of space. I will definitely contact a solicitor this week! Thank you for your lovely reply, and you're right I have got me, I'm not as depressed as I thought and I'm not insecure I need to stop kidding myself

I'm glad you have a RL friend to talk to. At times like these and anonymous forum can be fine, but there's just something about someone being able to look you in the eye and say 'EGBOK'. In case you're wondering, that's 70s-speak for 'Everything's Going to Be OK'. And it will, in time.

Just take a deep breath and move forward one step, one day at a time.

Do you think time away from him would help you gather your thoughts? There is nothing wrong we you not wanting this for you for your children.

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Take care

Thanks for replies, I don't really want to leave incase he takes anything or locks me out etc. I told him today he's made me feel like I'm not enough for him I think he was shocked. I said there's always been something or someone else there and that's what it feels like, he didn't really argue just said that's not true but we both know it is. I feel like a whirlwind has hit me I just want to go to sleep