Dedicated to someone who I know reads this forum, but relevant to many of you

[SeusspiciousMinds]

I am a coward for not telling you this in person, and I'm sure many of you who will read this will deserve to have this said to them too. Many of you deserve to get spoilt on Valentine's Day for all that you do and for how amazing you are, but sadly people never appreciate what they have right in front of them.

I know you are ridiculously self conscious and always feel like shit. I wish I could tell you how beautiful you are. I wish I could tell you that your weight really doesn't matter. I wish you knew how I avoid looking you in the face because your eyes absolutely kill me. I wish you knew how your sense of humour is just perfect. I wish I could tell you that hearing your voice makes my stomach flip. I wish I could tell you that you look ridiculously hot in that black dress even though you do walk like Captain Birdseye a bit in it. I wish I could tell you that I just stare at your hands because I know I'll never get to hold them. I wish you knew how gorgeous you are when you giggle like an idiot. I wish I could tell you how I know how much emotional pain you're in and how I want to just hold you. I wish you knew how long I've wanted to just lean over and kiss you. I wish you knew that even though you hate your job, you're very good at it. I wish you knew how appreciated and respected you are by many different people. I wish you knew how often I have to stop myself putting my hand on your thigh when you're driving. I wish I could give you everything you want but the reality is that I can't and you probably wouldn't want me to anyway. I wish you knew that I have wanted you since the very strange moment I first saw you. But most of all I wish you knew that you are worth much more than you think, and much more than how you're treated.

I'm presuming the op is female and that's why she thinks this person will be horrified and definitely won't be her type. There is no way of advising how to play this without those details but hope it works out for you op.

Good result J but a close thing

If you think this is creepy embroidered you should see what's in my basement

There is just too much to explain. Maybe one day when we aren't in such close proximity I will tell her, at least then if she's uncomfortable she doesn't have to be in the same room as me constantly

It was a good result sweet but big shame Wales couldn't perform that well earlier in the competition apparently Halfpenny is due to come back soon. Very good of him to take time out from being professionally injured to endure the inconvenience of playing a bit of rugby!

Yes he's been off a while J but they do have a good kicker in Biggar. Owen missed a couple and lost us 6 points but was a good game

Think we would be able to offer much more useful advice if you could just tell us if the obstacle is that you are female, there may be others who have been in a similar situation and can offer advice. I have never been attracted to a woman, but would still be very flattered if a female found me attractive.

Why are you convinced I'm female?

Not sure Seuss. I think it's because we can't think of another good enough reason not to tell her your feelings.

Do you think she has read this? Acted any different since you posted?

I don't know, things have been a bit strained recently but that's more to do with both of us having a lot of personal stress going on the past month or so. Who knows?

Are you sure it's not because she feels the same as you and is just as worried about you finding out?

What is the obstacle for you? Is she in a relationship/married? it sounds like she is but is unhappy.

But what if I ruin our friendship forever

If it is a real friendship it won't be wrecked. Just tell her.

Just to say, as the author of the Suesspicious Minds blog, it is nice to have a fan, but I wanted to be sure that nobody confused the real me with this fan.

Peculiarly, as we both like rugby and support Wales, there might well be people who think that we're the same person. We're not - I'm extremely happily married and not wooing anyone else.

Kudos to the OP for spelling the title in the way I meant too (as in Dr Seuss) but I misspelled it the day I set up the blog and have been stuck with a show of ignorance ever since - leading to people frequently addressing me as "Sue" and being surprised when I turn out to be a woman.

I spent a lot of my younger life hankering after unrequited love, like the OP, and my best advice is to give up on unrequited love - chasing that leads to epic poetry but a lot of unhappiness and time wasted - the requited kind, where someone loves you back is far more fulfilling and worthwhile. Hold out for that instead. Whilst you are being wistful about someone who can't be with you, you are potentially missing out on someone else who could be.

(Don't ever put your hand on a woman's thigh uninvited though, and particularly not when they are driving)

End of thread highjack.

Doh. Turn out to be a man, not "turn out to be a woman". I am not, as the Johnny Cash song "A boy named Sue"

/threadjack

Very pleased to meet you 'Sue' you inspired me to get a blog of my own, although I stray in and out of both civil and family. Mainly I use it to try to make sense of the ridiculous careers we have chosen for ourselves.

Have so far resisted the thigh, although tis not easy! How dare women be so magnificent.

Speculation
Are you a lesbian?

I think this whole thread is just a research article tbh

Or I've nailed the reason why Seusspicous Minds can't tell her. OP is a lesbian and the object of her desires is / might be / straight / in a relationship with a man.

It starts off as 'dedicated' implying it is just a story ...

So Seuss, have you said anything?

Anything to update us with, OP?

FWIW, I think you should just tell her too, you might be surprised.

Just had a peek at your blog Seuss.

PM'd you

Are you Gino Quilico singing Hahn's L'Heure Exquisite???? The best song ever sung btw. And yes ,I could put up with a beard if you sing to me like that!!! Sigh!