Dedicated to someone who I know reads this forum, but relevant to many of you

[SeusspiciousMinds]

I am a coward for not telling you this in person, and I'm sure many of you who will read this will deserve to have this said to them too. Many of you deserve to get spoilt on Valentine's Day for all that you do and for how amazing you are, but sadly people never appreciate what they have right in front of them.

I know you are ridiculously self conscious and always feel like shit. I wish I could tell you how beautiful you are. I wish I could tell you that your weight really doesn't matter. I wish you knew how I avoid looking you in the face because your eyes absolutely kill me. I wish you knew how your sense of humour is just perfect. I wish I could tell you that hearing your voice makes my stomach flip. I wish I could tell you that you look ridiculously hot in that black dress even though you do walk like Captain Birdseye a bit in it. I wish I could tell you that I just stare at your hands because I know I'll never get to hold them. I wish you knew how gorgeous you are when you giggle like an idiot. I wish I could tell you how I know how much emotional pain you're in and how I want to just hold you. I wish you knew how long I've wanted to just lean over and kiss you. I wish you knew that even though you hate your job, you're very good at it. I wish you knew how appreciated and respected you are by many different people. I wish you knew how often I have to stop myself putting my hand on your thigh when you're driving. I wish I could give you everything you want but the reality is that I can't and you probably wouldn't want me to anyway. I wish you knew that I have wanted you since the very strange moment I first saw you. But most of all I wish you knew that you are worth much more than you think, and much more than how you're treated.

Tell her how you feel

Damn it's not me I don't drive
Good luck OP you sound lovely.

You can tell her she's beautiful, good at her job, respected, loved by friends - all the things that would boost her self-esteem and make her feel better about herself.

If she's in a relationship, however toxic, you probably can't leap in and present yourself as an alternative option without it appearing entirely self-serving

If you work on the former though, help her feel better about herself generally, then hopefully the rest of her life will work out for the best one way or another.

So, in short 'don't worry about being fat I still want to do you'.

Well you've got mumsnet swooning.

Not me I'm afraid.

Do women here really have such poor self-image?

So, on a board largely populated by women in difficult situations, some of them facing danger and threat, an anonymous valentine that suggests OP knows "the target" but not username so has chosen to make contact this way because this is where she is to be found. Kind of bizarre, stalkerish, possibly fear-triggering and not really appropriate?

Really weird. And slightly self-congratulatory too.

I apologise if that is how this post has made you or anyone else feel. To clarify she knows I too use the boards although mainly to read the hilarity of 'AIBU' rather than posting much. Yes, the post is quite odd. But I am also quite odd (but not stalkerish, I hope!)

I was with you right up until the thigh comment.

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Are you Tom Hiddleston and are you talking to me?

A bit stalkerish.

Is 'a bit' acceptable?

Then you know who she is and could have PM'd your valentine instead of making many women worry that their x or stbx had found them and was taking the piss. You may be odd but insensitivity is the problematic issue.

I don't know her username and she doesn't know mine..at least I don't think she does, awkward if she does

I don't see how any woman would find this fear triggering. After all, there's a lot of information in the OP description that the likelihood more than one woman matching all of those details is quite slim. The captain Birdseye is obviously an in joke. Don't worry OP, I'm sure she'll pm you if she recognises herself.

I find it creepy.

Awkward.

A bit stalkery = me advance searching you to look at your past history
You need to take this out of Relationships
Put it into AIBU
as in...
AIBU to want to tell my work colleague/carpool driver...
Put on a hardhat
Add some
Take out fat and thigh comments*
Then I will bump for you on Valentine's day

*or I will be forced to reply

YABU now please remove your hand from my thigh

Have you got a beard, OP?

yes, take it out of relationships board please

Oh poo I met my exdh at a rugby match. It was at Twickers ?????

Lovely! Hope she knows who she is....being and feeling unloved is shit.

I name changed because I knew some bugger would search

And what's this about fat! She isn't fat. She thinks she is fat when in fact not. And no I'm not removing thighs because she has very nice thighs and they deserve a mention.

Maybe I've got a beard, who's asking

So who have you got money on for the 6 nations OP?