That thread, I read one page and sounds a bit like him.
It's as if he gives just enough atention to keep me from leavign but not enough to make me feel secure. I feel like he's a bit fucked in the head but then he sort of plays the little boy lost who needs me and while I believe it at times as soon as I don't see him for a week I feel angry.
Well he told me his first big ex left him because she said he didn't communicate / was conflict avoidant - and he IS. He said he left his second ex because she wasn't funny enough, but what struck me about that was that he told me she had an abortion but he didn't go with her becuse he had a course that day 
No matter what he is talking aout or what is the conversation or situation he is very sweet and sort of pathetic in his neediness but it is completely all about him. Even when he pisses me off and he apologises, the apology is all about him.
If he was brash, loud confident and more obvious about it I'd probably think he was a completely selfish cock but he plays it off in a way with his "I am so insecure, women always leave me, please love me" act and what's lacking is basic concern for other people.
Making plans late. Not being considerate of my life and what might make me happy. He does things that make me happy, yes, but only when it happens to be what he wants to do.
Example: he is mega busy at work (doing his masters) and I don't hear from him for a week. If I call him, he's standoffish and clear he wants space.
If I am mega busy at work and he wants to see me, he is asking if he can bring over a takeaway, help me with me work and even asking if he can just wait in bed for me.
It's hard to describe it accurately but despite him acting all moony over me at times, he is just selfish. I feel like he doesn't properly listen to me or remember things about me and then at the same time he is all over me. It's hard to put into words!!!
I feel like a mistress rather than a girlfriend? Maybe that is the best way to word it.
I am not into amazing sex if it has no potential, that bores me, but it has been more than amazing sex. We have so much fun, get on so well, the sex, kissing, affection is amazing but it's just....well...that he's so selfish, lacks empathy?
I think it's already gone well past me not having feelings because I am fantasising about our wedding at the same time thinking he might be a cock. Which is why I was asking about the sex / chemisty thing.
I have ben in love twice before and both times I felt the man in question was absolutely a wonderful man with no bad character, totally trutworthy, respected them as great men...does that make sense?
this one feels like a man-child
Yet, God, he turns me on an excites me.