The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Battling The Wicked Wine Witch, One Day At A Time!

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Hello, I'm mouse, one of the Babes who have been on this lovely, rickety bus called Gerald for some time now!

There's no judgy pants worn on this bus, nor hoking of bosoms!! It's filled with every day life, love and laundry. As simple as that. The rest falls in between.

We're a welcoming, supporting thread, filled with a mine of information from many years of experience, from those who have consumed alcohol day in, day out...hidden the 'habit', the lie, disguised our drinking with many an excuse. So perfected over the years or new to the guilt of drinking more than you think you should.....

Anyway, old or new, lurker or not, come and say hello to us if you feel the need. We'd love to meet you if we haven't already :)

Thank you for reading this, find a seat, hide green opal fruits if you find any, they're like gold dust around here! Aren't they ma!!

See you soon, I hope.

Mouse x

And, if you'd like to see where we all began, sit with a cup of tea/coffee and have a peek at this - the beginning

And our latest thread that will take you back to many others enjoy your read!

Just got in from a night shift. Had aimed to not drink (I drink after my nights too ) as not back tonight so will end up drinking then too but I'm about to cave in. Spent a lot of the night and the drive home thinking will I or won't I, which is stupid as I've made a mental list of all the reasons not to drink and they far outweigh drinking. Keep justifying it to myself; it's my night time, loads of other people I know have a glass of wine, night nurse, or some other substance to sleep after nights etc.

Morning claret 4 glasses over a day sounds quite restrained to me, but get what you mean about not wanting it to lead to slipping back.

Shared 2 bottles of fizzy stuff with Dh last night, he asked why I'd been off it and now we have decided if we both drink in moderation and not on school nights we will be a lot happier, no hangover today but really enjoyed a drink rather than just drinking because it was there.
Back to nothing now though as technically this will be a school night.

Day 5 of Lent here and I'm really enjoying waking refreshed and ready for the day

I've lost a couple more pounds now so that makes it a total of 16lb so far this year

All I've done is cut out added sugar (which obviously includes alcohol) and stuck to 3 meals a day. The difference is that instead of doing a few weeks and then reverting back to old habits, I've stayed with it this time and am bloody determined to keep it off!

Well done to all those abstaining, moderating, experimenting or white knuckling it through a difficult patch. Remember, they are only phases and they will pass so dig deep and use every strategy you can to avoid that first drink. It's the only one you have to worry about x

Ma what's the weather like up there? The sun is actually with us today, no rain, no frost, it's positively spring like

I'm so so tired, I've been at work all night, so why the fuck am I drinking??? Managed 40 mins without when I got in but cravings got too much, I'm basically scared of going to bed without being ready to pass out. I have no willpower at all it seems.

Elba what is it you are scared of, my lovely?

faire its a beautiful sunny crisp day with a dusting of snow lying. More snow forecast but for now we have sunshine. I really must get out for a walk....still lazing about in bed!

Sounds gorgeous ma. I am still lazing about in pjs but have to take ds to work in a bit so will shift myself into the shower.

Back later x

faire I'm not even sure anymore I have just self medicated for so long I can't cope if I don't, lots of stuff I'd rather not allow to be real.

Sorry, totally self pitying mode at the moment. Feel like such a stupid selfish bitch

Hello.

Hello I have been following you on your other thread nobody how are you ?

Jumping back on board.
Anyone watched the series Nurse Jackie......very powerful. It deals with addiction and I have just finished the last series .
I cant do links but if you can find it on youtube check out K D Langs version of Valley of the Dolls. I found that it has haunted me since listening to it

I need a drink badly. Shakes very bad, nausea sweats. My battery is almost gone, butcmunsnets kept me afkoat

how is your DH ? Can you ask someone to bring a charger to you ? Keep talking xx

nobody
If you are able to come back later please do . You will find a lot of support and absolutely no judgement here. There are a lot of wise people on board who will be able to help.

Dh stable but critical. The bleed and high bp have been bad. Kids sleeping. Battery almost dead.
I can't detox like this. I'm worried about saying I need a drink on a thread with people struggling to stay sober.

Please dont think that you will be judged. I think you will find the key word is struggling some days we make it and other times we dont.
Stay with us x

I've got to get a bottle or some help. The shakes are bad, sweats, nausea worse. I just need to straighten up.

I have just seen on your other thread that you have gone to get help in ER.
Please come back when you are able as there really is a lot of support here.
I will be thinking of you and your DH

Don't know the whole story nobody but don't worry about drinking while on this thread. It's not a dry thread, its a support thread. Do what you need to do to get through the day.

Hi nobody. I read your thread and hope you get some support. Please do come back and let us know how you're getting on. It doesn't matter if you're drinking or struggling to detox, we are here to talk it over or just offer a friendly word.

Hello nobody, you'll find absolutely no judgement here. We've all struggled and are here to help, and it doesn't matter if you're still drinking because we're all here for you love.

Hello everyone.
I've come across this thread by accident (I was following nobodyspecialanymore and her awful struggles with DH being in the ER in America) but have realised that this thread and your support is what I need.

I have been drinking a bottle of wine every night for over 5 years now.

DH knows about the weekend wine but he has no idea about the rest as I ensure that the bottles are always hidden and I never drink until he's gone to bed (he's a shift worker so is always in bed by 9pm).

I'm 51 yrs old and know that I need to sort this out. I never drink before 9pm so daytime drinking is not an issue but, if I haven't got a bottle of wine ready for the evening, I feel a bit "twitchy" and uncomfortable - does that make sense??

My DH is teetotal due to health and medication issues and I know that he'd be horrified if he knew what I'd been upto regarding hiding bottles and burying the empties in the bottom of the dustbin.

Just reading the above makes me sound like a drunken lush but, in reality, I'm a normal person who works, keeps a good clean house, has raised her children and would appear to be a normal upright member of society - apart from the alcohol.

Over Christmas when DH wasn't working and therefore not going to bed quite so early I actually bought a litre of gin which I drank mixed with tonic water whilst telling DH I was drinking "just tonic". I really don't think it entered his head that I was being so deceitful just to feed my alcohol craving.

The weird thing is, some evenings I don't really fancy the wine but I feel compelled to open it - sounds stupid but it's true.

At the moment I'm sat here perfectly happily drinking a can of coke - I have no desire for wine BUT, because I haven't got a bottle hidden away for tonight I do feel slightly anxious. I'm debating whether to walk to the shops and get one or whether to stick it out and start reducing my intake.

I don't want to give up alcohol altogether, I just want to get back to the stage where I can enjoy a drink at a weekend and that's it.

Sorry for the rambling post but I wanted to explain how, on the one hand I don't see myself as an alcoholic but on the other hand my lifestyle around alcohol needs addressing as it's not normal.

Welcome dame how nice to have a titled person on the bus! seriously, your pattern of drinking sounds pretty similar to how mine has been although dh knows about it so I don't hide it. After being ill recently I have cut down a lot but totally understand the jitteriness when you don't have a bottle in, and the drinking it even when you don't really want it. Do you want to cut down gradually, or go dry? You will get help here either way

Welcome dame