Honest opinion of gingers

[EmmaBray]

Hello, my work colleague is a male ginge and seems to regard himself as being a suitable subject for the undateables! He's a lovely man and would do anything for anyone and he is really funny once he opens up. Problem is he's painfully shy at first especially around women, think looking at his feet whilst talking. He is a bit naive and has been taken for a fool before now as well as having people openly insult him with regards to his colouring. Anyway to cut a long story short he has given up on looking altogether since his last online dating fiasco. Any thoughts negative or positive to help?

[Lweji]

Not that I think it's a problem. Not for me.

[BrentCross]

I often wonder if English people realise how utterly weird to the rest of the world the anti-ginger prejudice is? And additionally this modern day drivel about it being acceptable on women but not men. So should they be introducing foetal DNA testing in case a redheaded woman's child is male? The prejudice diminishes the bearer of it, and like your strange fetish for house price bubbles and perpetual Tory governments, it is just WEIRD.

[Katarzyna79]

the epitome of beauty to me is red/ginger hair, deep shade or more vibrant, with bouncy curls even better. Nicole kidman, was the first red head that got me crazed for the colour, in her early days before she met tom cruise.

nowadays she tones it down that or its fading I don't know.

I like fake red hair too, like Kristen stewarts vibrant version in that vampire series. debra messing (will&grace).

Rita Hayworth can't be left out or Maureen o hara. rita looks stunning, she used to be a pin up back in her days

[Bogeyface]

Exasperated

It was a joke, one that is very popular in my "tinge of the ginge in your minge" family!

[Muldjewangk]

I love red hair and nothing cuter than little tots with red curly hair. No red haired people in my family, except one little girl who has long strawberry blonde ringlets. Absolutely gorgeous, people stop her all the time to say how beautiful her hair is.

[Ledkr]

I know I'm extra sensitive to this because
A I'm a bit moody today and
B I have a red headed four year old.
But I just can't get past the thread title. When I saw it on my active convos It stands out as really inappropriate and bigoted.
I was trying to think of a comparison to illustrate just how horribke it is but I can't bring myself to post it.

To compartmentalise a group of people by their hair colour is ridiculous and not helping to dispel the last acceptable form of "ism"

[ravenmum]

Does your colleague think he is undateable because he has red hair, or is that your take on it, OP?

My dad is a shy redhead with a big nose who is into model railways and Radio 4 and likes cats. Or he's a tall, wiry redhead who's built a successful career from his hobby, makes interesting conversation, is kind to animals and humans alike, has a lovely house in the countryside, and has been married twice, to women who are not shallow.

[ZaZathecat]

My dd has red hair and is now 16. She has only ever had positive comments about her hair, usually 'what fabulous hair!' or similar. I love it too.

[JohnLuther]

My brother has ginger hair and he's in a LTR, I love women with ginger hair and loads of freckles, a few of my old girlfriends have ginger hair.

[Madblondedog]

EmmaBray wondering whether you work with a friend of mine as you've described him perfectly.

Hair colour is irrelevant, people go for personality over everything else on the whole. I have a number of ginger family members and it has never stopped them having relationships.

There are plenty of red heads in the media who are seen to be handsome, Prince Harry and Ed Sheeran as an example. He's just not met the right person, him blaming hair colour is an easy way to hide away.

[Zorion]

This is ridiculous. DH is red headed. DS is blonde. I am brown. I have NEVER heard a comment about it (although DH did at school, but he was very clever and very good looking so not much else to pick on). I've only ever had people say how hot he is , nothing about his hair!

[RavioliOnToast]

Es Sheeran is 100% the love of my life don't tell DH

But I love his red hair!

From a person randomly on the street, it wouldn't matter if they were finger or not. I think that women who say they wish their kids weren't ginger are the reason there is a problem with red hair. They don't want red haired kids because they know they're usually the target of bad jokes- these people are the problem not ginger hair

[RavioliOnToast]

Ed

[HooseRice]

Mmmmm ginger hair smells divine

...misses point of thread

[LaContessaDiPlump]

I am a ginger and have produced a ginger DS.

I already plan to walk up to haters in the school playground, fix them with my friendliest not-quite-confrontational smile and say 'But what's wrong with being ginger?' while my hair billows wildly around me

Mind you this thread worries me slightly, DS1 is a bit shy too

[Terribleknitter]

DH is ginger and has never had a problem with his confidence around other people! In fact his job relies on him being comfortable socialising and dealing with men and women - his personality doesn't start or end with his hair...
However there is a weird sort of person who will fixate on a physical characteristic and decide that it's a good enough reason to hate someone or start on them, could be hair colour (the bloke who attacked DH did so purely because he was "a ginger fucking cunt") but equally it could be ears, nose, height - it doesn't matter, some people are just like that.
IF your colleague thinks that his hair colour is to blame then he's obviously come across far too many of these Arseholes in his life and needs to look a little closer at his own issues.
If however you're projecting your own thoughts onto him you need to back off and leave the poor sod be!!

[Pipistrella]

I really object to caling people 'a ginger' or 'a male ginge' (FGS) as though it were a different species or something.

I think calling people Blondes has a slightly different connotation obviously, but it's still annoying. Brunette is also annoying because I don't think it's ever used for men.

I don't have ginger or red or auburn hair btw, but I feel for those who suffer because of it.

[Sunbeam1112]

I never understand how people can give others so much power over a hair colour. My DH is ginger hes gorgeous. End of the day people will judge if you wear glasses, over weight etc. Realistically you can't please everyone and your not going to be everyone cup of tea either.

[Alastrante]

This is a ridiculous thread.

[ImperialBlether]

TokenGinger, your hair is absolutely beautiful.

OP, your thread header makes you sound like an idiot.

[Caffeinator]

Bogeyface I was about to post that! :)

[GummyBunting]

Domhnall Gleeson. Toatally gorgeous, totally ginger.

[CaptainMerryweather]

Urg, heard some teens at the bus stop the other day mentioning a girl they'd seen out - teen girl says that her friend said quite audibly that "she'd dye it"

I really do not get why red hair is so disliked It makes absolutely no difference to a person what colour their hair is.

[motherinferior]

I've had people speculate in horror that they might have a child with my hair colouring.

I've had a lot more fancy the pants off me, though.

[flatbellyfella]

I love red hair & freckles on women, be proud of your beauty.